There ya go! I would get the test scheduled. That will put an end to any doubts you had.

See, most waywards will initially AGREE to take the test thinking that will be enough to assure the spouse. But funny things start happening when they are informed the test has been scheduled. You should schedule the test.

Thank you all for your support! I absolutely WILL schedule the test.

There ya go!

Expect some sort of recovered memory right before the poly.
If he confesses ... do not cancel the test.

ArmyMama,
How do I present the questions to my H? Wouldn't he say he'd take his chances at the test itself? I can see him thinking, "Answering two or three of these questions is better than answering thirty or so. I don't need to reveal as much."

TS, hand him a list of questions that he must answer truthfully before the test. After you have his answers, then decide what questions to have the polygrapher ask him. Tell your husband that the test will focus on 3 questions fom your list but he won't know beforehand which ones.

Write out all your questions beforehand and get the answers.

There are good examples of questions and how other posters handled polygraphs in here.
Polygraph Testing

Did I misunderstand? I am listening to the radio show today and heard someone else on.

AM

Yes. We talked with Joyce this am. She had double-booked. So, we have rescheduled for Monday. Thanks for trying to listen. And sorry for the inconvenience it may have caused you. I should have posted this sooner.

Sewer,

No inconvenience here. My H and I often listen to the show together while having lunch. We'll tune in next week.

Did you schedule the poly?

AM

Not yet. But I have finished the questions. So, progress being made. Will work on finding someone from my area tomorrow, and if I find one in time to make the call, I will do it. It will be Friday, so would like to get the appointment scheduled before the weekend.

I also spent time writing a letter to Joyce in prep for Monday.

Just a note on the Poly. My wife agreed to a Poly after her infidelity. She broke down and confessed most prior to the test and some minor details just before.

We traveled about 2 hours from our home and I feel to this day found a very qualified examiner. The guy that conducted the test was a retired police investigator and actually taught others how to conduct the exam.

Anyway, my point here is I had more than 3-4 specific questions I hoped to have answered about my FWW affair.

He gave me the option to have 3-4 specific questions to ensure accuracy OR have my wife write out a statement covering various areas of her affair then my wife was simply asked while hooked up to the poly if her written statement was true and correct without any false information.

If she was intentially lieing in her statement I was confident the test would have showed it.

Also just be on alert to changes in your H attitude after scheduling the test. Mybwife admitted at one point while in the "fog" that it had crossed her mind to just agree to the test and try to beat it before being honest...

glad to hear you're working on the poly. will make an effort to listen to the show on tuesday. i am keen to hear what the harley's will say, but am putting my money on


however, if they've spoken with you, sewer, about EAs, i hope they will talk to your H about what those are and how they hurt a M.

Hey, Letty

Thank you for your wise words. I take them to heart <3

I, too, am looking forward to MB radio. It's on Monday, though I think it will still be available on Tuesday am.

Our "Monday" is Letty's "Tuesday".

Ah, she lives outside of the US? That would explain it

Anyway, Harleys have offered to be our "accountability coaches". That's INVALUABLE to me because I'm tired of being the one. It should eliminate my LBs. Yay!

Ah, she lives outside of the US? That would explain it.

Yeah, it's either that or she has access to some really EPIC pharmaceuticals.