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Yes I can but I do have saa. Have you read it?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yes I have. But I think I should go over it again. And I emailed tge radio show so ill give her a call after work to set something up.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Yes I have. But I think I should go over it again. And I emailed tge radio show so ill give her a call after work to set something up. Fantastic. Let us know how it goes.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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You are off to a great start. Keep it up. Come back often and ask for advice and next steps. Don't lose your nerve, don't be afraid. Fear will paralyze you and cause you not to act. Come here when you need it. Follow all the instructions the Vets give you; read the books, call the show. You've got the momentum, let it build and roll right over this. Take care of and IMPROVE yourself, eliminate the LBs, meet her needs as much as humanly possible even when it makes you want to vomit, because it will at times.
Your greatest asset is that you still have good relations with your in-laws; use this to its fullest potential, but be careful you don't push them away. As a good father you know what love is. Show them you care for their little girl as much as they do. Then convince them to work with you to crush this disgusting thing.
BH Me 34
WW 29
DS 7, DD 5
Multiple EAs 2006-2011
PA 1 OM1 2/2012; D-Day1 3/14/2012; NC 4/1/2012; broke NC 05/2012
PA 2 ONS OW1 7/11/12
PA 3 OM2 1/06/2013; D-Day2 1/14/2013
Divorcing 1/22 Plan A 1/23
Worthless attempt at Trickle Exposure
Multiple PAs OW2,3,&4 since 1/27/2013
WW moved out 3/5/2013
Temp Custody of DS and DD 3/21/13
WW moved back D-Day 3 9/1/13
NC/FR 9/3/13
WW moved out 9/17/13
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Thank you guys for the support. I know this will be a tough road to travel but some times fear makes you stand up and do what is right cause I woukd be lying if I was not terrified.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ww's are cruel but I cant let that get me down.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ww's are cruel but I cant let that get me down. You're correct. What's up?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Just tried to get into her fb account snd saw pics of her and the om.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Just tried to get into her fb account snd saw pics of her and the om. Sorry. Did you save the evidence (not that you need more)?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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She just had some pics and I did. I also have a appointment with the radio show for wed. And I will probably take some anger managment classes beforethe courts order me too and get it out of the way.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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She just had some pics and I did. I also have a appointment with the radio show for wed. And I will probably take some anger managment classes beforethe courts order me too and get it out of the way. Let us know what they say. Have you been ordered to take anger management? Have you seen this? Anger Management 101
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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No I have not been ordered but it still looks good in front of the judge. And yes I have seen the anger 101
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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No I have not been ordered but it still looks good in front of the judge. And yes I have seen the anger 101 Looking forward to your show.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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If i sound like a rabid monkey please let me know.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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If i sound like a rabid monkey please let me know.  You'll do fine.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Well a good sense of humor always helps right?
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Well a good sense of humor always helps right? Always. The Harleys make you feel so relaxed and they're easy to talk to.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Quick question during plan a how would I put lb tokens from a distance even if we are not living together and also if she is with the posom at the time would it make a differance?
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Another good show of a H Plan A'ing from afar, but keep in mind they don't think she's still involved with OM. Tell us what you think. Radio clip of Plan A'ing from afar Segment #2 Segment #3
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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