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AT&T bill question / iMessage question
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I finally gained access to our AT&T bill online. There is plenty of damning evidence there, but some things seem to be missing. I know that OW texted WH on 4/21 b/c I can view it on his iPad, but it does not show up on his bill. Is that b/c they are both using iPhones and it is an iMessage?

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Affair is ongoing as far as I know, though he claims otherwise.
DS-3 yrs, DD 16 months, baby #3 due 6/13
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Originally Posted by Almnac
I finally gained access to our AT&T bill online. There is plenty of damning evidence there, but some things seem to be missing. I know that OW texted WH on 4/21 b/c I can view it on his iPad, but it does not show up on his bill. Is that b/c they are both using iPhones and it is an iMessage?
Yes that's very possible.

AT&T only shows what's through your phone contract. Data will show up, but it won't show to and from information.

Isn't your iPad through wireless internet? You would need a keylogger on the IPad. Also if you put spyware on his iPhone you will get the IM chats.

Do you have spyware on his phone and IPad?

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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No, I do not.
A quick google search confirms that I will only see the iMessages as data, with no to / from info. This explains why it appears he has had NC, when that is actually pretty doubtful. Glad I finally caught on. Hard to stay a step ahead of a cheater.
Are the key logger and spyware difficult to install or easy to detect? When not in the fog, he is very clever and I do not want to get busted. Right now my instincts tell me that he is lying through his cake eating teeth, but I am 32 weeks pregnant and I never know what is rational and what is hormones.
Thanks for your response.

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Affair is ongoing as far as I know, though he claims otherwise.
DS-3 yrs, DD 16 months, baby #3 due 6/13
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From my experiences very easy and not detectable. It will even give you instructions on how to clear your tracks of installing it.

Yes, with all the technology now days you have to have Intel on everything to really know what's going on.

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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

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