"For a thoughtful person, it�s remarkable how little thought I really gave to it until it was too late. But I think a lot of it came down to: I was in a world and a profession that had me wanting people�s approval. By definition, when you are a politician, you want people to like you, you want people to respond to what you�re doing, you want to learn what they want to hear so you can say it to them. "

Hmmm. Admiration Junky. Empty Admiration.

...Even Jon Stewart, a friend of Weiner�s since the late �80s, did not hold back. �I may have been impeached by some sort of comedy board if I hadn�t made all those Weiner jokes,� he says. When I ask Stewart if, knowing Weiner for so long, the scandal surprised him, he said: �It did, in that you never expect the person you know to be the guy on TV in the middle of the quagmire, but it didn�t surprise me in that we�re all human. So it�s not like, �My God, I can�t believe the depravity!� First of all, in terms of these types of scandals, the depravity was on a very low scale.�



�We create a two-dimensional effigy of an individual and just kind of burn it in the town square and then walk away,� Stewart says. �As someone who is part of the process that does that to people, when I talked to him, it was more from that perspective than anything else, to say: �As low as you are, please understand that what�s happening to you right now isn�t really happening to you, it�s happening to whatever caricature we�ve all created of you. You have your own responsibility in this, but it�s not to us. I know it�s hard to separate yourself from that, but I hope you can at some level.� �

�Anthony and I had not spent more than 10 consecutive days together until I was pregnant and we went to Italy and France for two weeks,� she told me. �That was the longest period of time we�d ever spent together. Later, when we thought about it, we didn�t realize that so much of our lives were kind of these snippets of, we see each other for a few days and then are separated.�

Maybe I'm weird... but I didn't read it to knock a politician. Nor to elevate him.

Instead, I read an interview with a husband and a wife two years after an affair... and looked at things like the statement I quoted.

Weiner will make a comeback. He's got even more notoriety and name recognition than ever now. Just has to wait a bit for people to forget why they remember the name.

I wouldn't have believe such to be true. When you've got an MB view on things you know these persons are completely unreliable and unelectable. However, like the idiot voters in South Carolina that for some reason thought electing Mark Sanford into Congress during a special election, there are enough stupid persons in the world that read a voting ballot and say "Mmmmm...Mark Sanford [or Anthony Weiner], I've heard of him" and simply check the box next to that name.

Mark Sanford Wins special election

Then again...republican controlled South Carolina Legislature and Secretary of State Mark Hammond purchased and maintain computer (Direct Electronic Recording) voting booths from republican owned corporations so any voting result in South Carolina is suspect. Corporations and Billionaires liked Mark Sanford when he was Governor so there is nothing they wouldn't do to have another friend in Congress.

Mr. W

Ditto

I fall on the "side" of hoping that their marriage can completely recover.
That's about the gist of it.

They haven�t been to a major event together � no White House Correspondents Dinner, no red-carpet events � in nearly two years. �We didn�t want to make other people uncomfortable,� Abedin said, �but also, we just didn�t want to deal with it. I have now gotten used to people asking, over and over again, �How is Anthony?� Oh, he�s good! �But how is he doing?� He�s doing fine.�


...


Abedin�s memory of this moment is a little sharper. �The weekend was over, we�re about to leave, the car is packed, and Anthony said: �I have something to tell you. I can�t lie to you anymore. It�s true. It�s me. The picture is me. I sent it. Yes, these stories about the other women are true.� And it was every emotion that one would imagine: rage and anger and shock. But more than anything else, in the immediate, it was disbelief. The thing that I consciously remember saying over and over and over again is: �I don�t understand. What is going on? What�s happening to our lives?� �


...


I felt like I couldn�t breathe,� Abedin says. �I felt like I was in an airplane really high in the air, and all of a sudden, the plane is coming apart at the seams, and I am just doing all I can to hang on for dear life. That is what it felt like.�


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When I ask Abedin if Clinton guided her through those first terrible days, she says: �We�ve had a lot of personal conversations, none of which I feel comfortable talking about. But what I will say about her, and for that matter her entire family, the unconditional love and support they have given me has been a real gift. And I think she would be O.K. with me saying this, because I know she has said this before: at the end of the day, at the very least, every woman should have the ability and the confidence and the choice to make whatever decisions she wants to make that are right for her and not be judged by it.�

Abedin returned on June 15. �She sneaks to meet me in the trunk of her friend�s car,� Weiner says. �Then we go away to another friend�s house in the Hamptons, just the two of us, trying to figure out if we can save our marriage and what we�re going to do and everything else. First, there was the decision to resign. Huma didn�t really want me to, frankly. But I just had to cull that part of the conversation out of our lives and focus on my marriage, my family, her family. I just didn�t have any bandwidth. My career seemed the least important of all of those other things. That wasn�t easy for Huma. Her frame was: We�ve gotta get back to normal somehow.� But he had made up his mind. The next day, while Abedin stayed behind in their apartment in Queens, Weiner held a chaotic four-minute news conference at a senior center in his district, at which hecklers nearly shouted him out of the room, one yelling, �Goodbye, pervert!�

�But in the confines of our home and our relationship and our parenting this child and our love for each other � she said she wanted to get through it, she wanted not to conflate the giant international news story with the two people who were involved in it. And a lot of women couldn�t do that. And Jordan has given us a lot of perspective. We have to deal with this a lot. It�s not behind us. It kind of bubbles around and comes up in different ways. But she�s, um. . . .� Here, he paused and took a deep breath and started to cry. �She�s given. . . .� He stopped again, could barely get the words out. �She�s given me another chance. And I am very grateful for that. And I�m trying to make sure I get it right.�

I wouldn't have believe such to be true.

Ditto

I fall on the "side" of hoping that their marriage can completely recover.
That's about the gist of it.

I posted this to look at a high profile marriage, and what things look like 2 years after a very public revelation of infidelity in that marriage.

None of that has anything to do with your knowledge of MB concepts.

I posted this to look at a high profile marriage, and what things look like 2 years after a very public revelation of infidelity in that marriage.

I don't know how you can bring a high profile politicians case up on a forum and not expect it to be political.

As for gay marriage, Dr Harley publicly opposes gay marriage and has testified in legislative hearings against it, in addition to writing a book on the subject

One major affair differences with a high profile marriage is that the exposure is usually provided as a public service instead of the by the BS. The causes seem typical: Getting needs met outside of marriage through work and online admiration, not setting boundaries, not putting your spouse first, nights apart, not being O&H.

His explanation of the admiration fix sounds so similar to Beth's on the April 18th radio show. She described her serial cheating, sex addict husband's obsession with admiration as his primary motivation. Dr. Harley agreed.

Politicians, religious leaders & other officials need EPs just like the rest of us. I guess that the difficulty might come for some when their paycheck is tied to the public admiration or their loyalty to entities other than their spouse.

I can't imagine trying to compete with the contrast effect of admiration coming from those with an agenda.