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I'm jealous. You're lucky!!!  "Mom, can I book you for a facial? We're trying out some new products." OK 
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Well so much for the tight plan B...I received a call yesterday & the person indicated WH was bragging about receiving my plan b letter. He said he could get me back at any time but he's not interested. After telling me he was no longer involved with OW, he told this person they're doing great and he has no intention of reconciling with me. Do these hurtful situations ever stop? How do you let people know you're not interested in hearing anything about the WS?
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You tell them whenever they start talking. It's hard. But it's necessary.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Well so much for the tight plan B...I received a call yesterday & the person indicated WH was bragging about receiving my plan b letter. He said he could get me back at any time but he's not interested. After telling me he was no longer involved with OW, he told this person they're doing great and he has no intention of reconciling with me. Do these hurtful situations ever stop? How do you let people know you're not interested in hearing anything about the WS? As soon as they start talking about Your WH you tell them "please stop telling me about WH because it is too hurtful to hear anything about him and I'm trying to heal, thanks".
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thanks, BrainHurts! It's just so difficult to deal with all this stuff.
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Thanks, BrainHurts! It's just so difficult to deal with all this stuff. I know, friend and I understand. How is your self-care going? What do you plan for yourself?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I've been exercising a lot...going to the gym and taking long walks with family and friends. Plus I've been spending a lot of time with my girlfriends, they are fun to be around so it keeps my mind off my WH. I plan to get a pedicure this weekend & best of all, I booked a well-deserved vacation for my daughter and me!
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I've been exercising a lot...going to the gym and taking long walks with family and friends. Plus I've been spending a lot of time with my girlfriends, they are fun to be around so it keeps my mind off my WH. I plan to get a pedicure this weekend & best of all, I booked a well-deserved vacation for my daughter and me! Woo hoo! Way to go. That's what I'm talking about. I hope you have a very lovely vacation. You deserve it.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thank you!!
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I received divorce papers on Friday. I'm just astonished at the demands they are making...he wants everything and plans to give me NOTHING! Wow... how can this person that was suppose to be my best friend turn into someone that is treating me worse than an enemy? I can't begin to describe how hurt and devastated I was after reading these papers.
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I received divorce papers on Friday. I'm just astonished at the demands they are making...he wants everything and plans to give me NOTHING! Wow... how can this person that was suppose to be my best friend turn into someone that is treating me worse than an enemy? I can't begin to describe how hurt and devastated I was after reading these papers. This was probably his attorney's idea. Ask for the moon and bargain down from there.
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I hope so, but my stomach has been in knots ever since. Just thinking about everything makes me physically ill...where will I live, in the meantime how will I pay all the household bills and the lawyer too, how do I keep up with all the household chores (inside & outside), and why is it all my responsibility when he abandoned me...why is life so crappy sometimes?!
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The opposition is counting on you feeling worn down and anxious to "just get it over with" .... so that you will agree with some settlement that is to their advantage.
Do NOT experience stomach acid ... get organized.
Have you and your attorney discussed your response?
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why is life so crappy sometimes?! I understand why you are asking this question, but I must nudge you away from such pointless minefields. These sorts of questions/thoughts have no answer. Pointless. With purpose, push you mind into planning mode. Keep records of EVERYTHING. Ask for help. When panicked, the brain cannot think straight.
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Thanks, Pepperband. I haven't talked with her since receiving the paperwork, but I have plans to this week. I guess I just pay the retainer and let the attorney do their job.
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Thanks, Pepperband. I haven't talked with her since receiving the paperwork, but I have plans to this week. I guess I just pay the retainer and let the attorney do their job. Well, you certainly don't want to get sick. This sort of stress can contribute to illness. Edit to add: Don't speak to her about legal matters.
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My lawyer told me the document I received was ridiculous and we shouldn't even acknowledge it. It's a separation agreement and she says it's not a good place to begin our negotiations. She wants me to just file a motion for divorce and not bother with him and his lawyer until that's done. Thoughts?
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Do you know your legal position? IS your state a fault or no fault state? Sometimes, even in no-fault states, you could be awarded a greater percentage of assets based on his misbehavior.
Get educated.
Then decide.
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It is starting to get ugly now. He was served with divorce papers a month ago, and his response via his "new" lawyer was unbelievable. He basically wants everything & I get a sharp stick in the eye to go along with the knife that is hanging out of my back. I'm really having a hard time dealing with my emotions because I never thought I could dislike a person as much as I dislike him now. Any suggestions for curbing the anger? I don't like the person I have become because of all these pent up emotions. 
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Antidepressants are lovely and help you focus. They will keep your emotions on an even keel so you can think logically rather than emotionally.
What do you think of your lawyer? Do you have faith that she will defend your best interests?
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