As is the case with any behavior, the more you repeat it, the more firmly established it becomes as a habit. So something you enjoy doing is likely to be repeated, and that makes it likely to become a strong habit. You've been looking over women (gawking) for some time now, so it will be difficult to change that habit, but I know of many men who have been successful.

The easiest approach, of course, is to avoid being around women, so changing managers was a good idea. Events where particularly attractive women are present (sporting events --cheerleaders--, shopping centers, TV featuring attractive women, etc.) should be avoided. As for the other women at work, you will have to practice deliberately looking away. If you can't do it, you may need to change jobs to one where attractive women are not present.

I draw an important distinction between glancing and gawking. Glancing at women is inevitable unless no women are present. I view glancing as a look no longer than one second. Five seconds is my absolute upper limit for looking before it becomes gawking, but in your case, your wife may find even a five-second look to be offensive to her. So I would encourage you to limit your glances to one second, which will give you enough time to recognize that the person as a woman and that you would then look away. The more you practice that behavior, the easier it will be to do.

Gawking is offensive to most wives. They don't want other women to be making Love Bank deposits, even if those women will never be seen again. They want their husband's Love Bank to be closed to women who could meet their important emotional needs and be open to them exclusively.