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How are you going to send the NC letter, mrs.cen? Well Prisca, I'm not sure - if you look back to my first post tonight, that was the initial question.
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First of all I NEVER said I was angry MelodyLane - I started by explains the events of our evening - expressing HIS anger and asking for suggestions on how to send the NC letter. You're obviously agitated about it, though. 40 minutes really doesn't leave me a lot of time to be doing "dishonest things" 40 minutes is plenty of time to do many dishonest things. You haven't even sent a NC letter yet, and you're shopping? And you expect him to not wonder if you're honest? Of course he's going to wonder ... He CAN'T trust you right now. And he SHOULDN'T.
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How are you going to send the NC letter, mrs.cen? Well Prisca, I'm not sure - if you look back to my first post tonight, that was the initial question. Start thinking. How are you going to do it?
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First of all I NEVER said I was angry MelodyLane - I started by explains the events of our evening - expressing HIS anger and asking for suggestions on how to send the NC letter. You're obviously agitated about it, though. 40 minutes really doesn't leave me a lot of time to be doing "dishonest things" 40 minutes is plenty of time to do many dishonest things. You haven't even sent a NC letter yet, and you're shopping? And you expect him to not wonder if you're honest? Of course he's going to wonder ... He CAN'T trust you right now. And he SHOULDN'T. No, I'm actually not agitated at all. I don't "expect" him to do anything - perhaps I'm not being clear enough here - when I posted tonight, it was to explain his feelings and ask about the NC letter I'm expected to send. I did not suggest, nor did I say I was angry at all, I did not suggest, nor did I say I expect him to suddenly trust me.
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First of all I NEVER said I was angry MelodyLane - I started by explains the events of our evening - expressing HIS anger and asking for suggestions on how to send the NC letter. Secondly, I suppose as you said any "half-wit can run into a store etc" is indeed true, however, getting off work, speaking to him, buying the shirt and making it home within 40 minutes really doesn't leave me a lot of time to be doing "dishonest things" You didn't need to say you were angry, we can read it in your post which complains about him. Did you tell your husband you were going there?
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No, I'm actually not agitated at all. Right.  So you should have no problem with him checking up on you in the future. And you shouldn't have a problem skipping the shopping for awhile, to ease your husband's fears.
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First of all I NEVER said I was angry MelodyLane - I started by explains the events of our evening - expressing HIS anger and asking for suggestions on how to send the NC letter. Secondly, I suppose as you said any "half-wit can run into a store etc" is indeed true, however, getting off work, speaking to him, buying the shirt and making it home within 40 minutes really doesn't leave me a lot of time to be doing "dishonest things" You didn't need to say you were angry, we can read it in your post which complains about him. Did you tell your husband you were going there? Yes, I did tell him I was going. I didn't realize talking about his feelings, was complaint about them - I will refrain from doing so in the future.
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How did you have an affair with this guy without having any contact info? One more time - I KNOW his name, I KNOW his cell number, we did not meet at my home, nor did we meet at his home. hmmm, where did you meet? We met in high school, lost touch, became friends through FB. What?? Didn't you meet at a gym?
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Yes, I did tell him I was going. I didn't realize talking about his feelings, was complaint about them - I will refrain from doing so in the future. If you told him you were going to the store and he agreed to this, then why was he upset?
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I didn't realize talking about his feelings, was complaint about them - I will refrain from doing so in the future. Stop it.
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No, I'm actually not agitated at all. Right. So you should have no problem with him checking up on you in the future. And you shouldn't have a problem skipping the shopping for awhile, to ease your husband's fears. Of course I don't have a problem with it - I didn't realize that shopping for half an hour would upset him, being as I spoke with him on the phone and brought home the receipt etc. clearly I was wrong, and need to be much more aware of his feelings in the future and either bring him with me or not go at all.
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How are you going to send the NC letter, mrs.cen?
I can tell you, if the fate my marriage hung on that one thing, I would find the info needed.
We can't find it for you. You're going to have to do it. You cannot skip this step.
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No Melody, we did not meet at a gym
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No, I'm actually not agitated at all. Right. So you should have no problem with him checking up on you in the future. And you shouldn't have a problem skipping the shopping for awhile, to ease your husband's fears. Of course I don't have a problem with it - I didn't realize that shopping for half an hour would upset him, being as I spoke with him on the phone and brought home the receipt etc. clearly I was wrong, and need to be much more aware of his feelings in the future and either bring him with me or not go at all. This doesn't add up. So you told him BEFORE you went shopping and he agreed to this and then when you got home he was upset?
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Of course I don't have a problem with it - I didn't realize that shopping for half an hour would upset him, being as I spoke with him on the phone and brought home the receipt etc. clearly I was wrong, and need to be much more aware of his feelings in the future and either bring him with me or not go at all. Exactly.
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Yes, that is correct - I told him, where I was going BEFORE I went, spoke with him twice while I was there, everything was fine when I got home, he got angry a few hours after - which was the start of my first post tonight.
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Yes, that is correct - I told him, where I was going BEFORE I went, spoke with him twice while I was there, everything was fine when I got home, he got angry a few hours after - which was the start of my first post tonight. WHY was he upset then?
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I don't know, I believe when I'm not around it gives him time to "think" and it reminds him of the A and he gets angry and begins to "think of things/ideas/scenarios" in his head.
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I get it now. He doesn't BELIEVE the explanation, which makes perfect sense. The big red flag to ME was the "I called twice while I was there!!" You just set off his red flags with that lame cover. You do realize that is not a cover, right, and makes your story sound contrived? ( I suggested he contact our cell provider and ask for the records - so as to see I've not been "texting/deleting"people) suggesting I was NOT where I said was after work for half hour (returned a sundress - brought new top AND receipt with time/date stamp to show him)
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I NEVER said I "called him twice", I said I SPOKE with him twice, I called ONCE, he called me ONCE.
There IS/WAS no "cover".
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