Hopes, he has no reason to leave. I would strongly urge you to file for divorce and get him removed legally. He will drive you crazy if he is allowed to stay there.

Yeah he got told to leave. I don't think God is too happy with him being here. Its over and he knows it, I don't think he will stay long now. He looks very mad, oh well he started all this so he can deal with the consequences.

I will say this, I feel sorry for the next woman who falls for him. He says since we are not going to be together he wont do counseling. Oh well, he has his walking papers now. I am staying right where I am. I like it here so I am staying right where I am.

Good for you, hopes! If he doesn't leave right away, you might want to pack his bags for him and change the locks.

I moved him out of the bedroom today. I got tired of sleeping on the loveseat. Did have one incident. Tried moving the mattress by myself and it pinned me for a while. Had a hard time getting the mattress off me but I got free. Also he is lying more than ever. I texted him over 27 texts trying to get him to help move his stuff out of the bedroom and he claims he got none of them. Don't think that's possible.

I always get this little triangle thing if the text don't send. Its a crappy droid so they are probably all the same. He claims he was at the library, school, or looking for a place to move to all day but I know better in my heart. Oh and the hidden supposedly closed email is now reopened. I emailed it and it did not bounce back. Tried it twice and they sent so somehow its magically open but he didn't do it of course. Of course he don't know the password or how to recover it either.

He got real mad today and would not even look at the texts I sent saying I was playing some sort of game? I wonder is he loosing his mind now for a change? Oh well, things they are a changing. Wont be long now I guess.

Have you packed his clothes and changed the locks yet? He will get that message!

Hopes, you can't expect him to answer you, to respond to your requests, or to tell the truth to you. All you can expect from him is a big fat zero.

So, like MelodyLane says, do it for him: pack his clothes and change the locks and send him off!

I repeat: pack his bags, change the locks and send him on his way.

He is seriously gaslighting you. Hopes!

I want to but waiting for him to get paid so I am not just tossing him out broke into the streets. Yeah I know, I am probably too nice sometimes. Jesus changed a whole lot about me so I am kind of different than the old Hopes. I will just a bit longer for him to have the funds to leave.

I already told him its over and nothing is going to happen between us, now or ever, that part is over. I am just staying friendly because of the kids too. My 15 yr old decided he wants to stay with me so guess we will have to have some contact so its probably best I don't just get too ugly.

I did do one bad thing. After the mattress pinned me I got a wave of rage and threw his crap into the yard. Later I sent the kids to go get it because I felt bad. I also had a little rage early on and threw a glass mug through the living room window. I gotta fix that, its plastic and pink duct tape now lol.

Jesus is still working on me, I still have some issues but I am trying hard to change and I think for the most part its working.

Thanks again
Hopes

Please read these. You don't have to have any contact with your WH because of your 15yo.


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That might be a good option. Its probably best he moves on with his life as well. I am just trying to be a better person. If you knew how much different (awful) I was before then you would understand why I am trying so hard to be better.

One of the reasons I didn't want to let everyone know what my old nickname was is it reads like a depressed/hypomanic person and who knows what your going to get on any given day. I guess since the marriage is over it cant hurt now.

Hugs all
Hopesalive

Hopes, an IM is really the only option for you. Plan B is absolutely no contact. If info needs to be exchanged about your DS, your IM can do that for you.

I think so too. Hey got a question. I don't even want to think this is true but it was really weird. Yesterday I asked step son for a drink of water. I drink few sips, wham I am nearly passed out. I kept some of it just incase. Maybe its not the water and something is going wrong with me? Either way I am going to have to see a doctor soon as I can.

Also even weirder my pharmacist died on a fishing trip yesterday so guess I have to find a new one. It just gets weirder and weirder. Anyway I keep telling him to go, but he says I have to wait till he has money. Will ask him again today.

Did you try packing his bags and changing the locks? I don't think he believes you are very serious.

No I haven't I am waiting till his payday and then he has to go. No excuses. I am getting tired of living this way. Now they are trying to say I am having a manic episode. I don't think I am but if I get sent to the hospital again I wont have anyone to check me back out. So I don't know how they could release me.

Its the sleep thing, my 2nd oldest is all concerned that I will die if I don't sleep. I do sleep but only for few min to an hr at a time. I tried to get them to give me sleeping pills but they wouldn't. Z quil sorta works, I might squeeze 4 hours worth of sleep at one time.

I have a drs. appointment in less than a week to see my new psychiatrist. Going to ask him for some advice on this sleep issue and see if he needs to switch or tweak my meds.

If I am having a manic episode its sure not like the last one. I feel clear in my head but have just a vivid imagination kind of like writers have when writing their books.

I am still dealing with him being here but don't worry I have got on my big girl pants and I can take care of myself. Anyway thanks again.

Hugs
Hopes

He wont go still. I asked him again today. Nope wont go till he has more money but he said I could go. I could go? Yeah I think his little strategy backfired. If I did have an residual feelings left for him he just killed that. If he was the last man on earth, we are going extinct.

I guess hes going to be a [censored] till the end. I did sleep some so I think I am doing better now. Its just all this stress, its hard to deal with all this. You people were right I was too nice. I am starting to see him for what he really is.

So when are you having the locksmith come over to change the locks? And pack his bags?

That will get the point to him.

Hopes, how are you doing? I think you might have a real good point about not having anyone to check you out of the mental hospital. How about asking your husband to go to the psychiatrist with you so he can get involved with your treatment? You are going need someone to help you.

How about shelving the plan to kick him out for now and working together to get you some medical treatment? You really need your husband's help right now.

I agree.

Will he go with you?

Well I am having a pretty hard time. I finally lost it and tossed everything else out of my bedroom when he told me he could come into there anytime he wants. I said Uh No you cant because I might be dressing or showering and he is not to see me naked ever again So I tossed what was left in there, I also gave him every gift he ever gave me back (wasn't much) and even gave him back the sand and ocean water that I got at the beach.

So now some freak sent some porno to my email claiming I was the woman pictured and ruined their relationship. He has latched onto this and is trying to accuse me. Its not me, heck I am about phobic about people seeing me naked there is no way in hell I would do a video with some dude. Then all sorts of crap starts happening to my computer. Printer is gone, cant find the disk to fix it. I have to have this fixed or don't see how I am going to go to school next semester.

I cant change the locks. I have probably 2 dollars to my name. No access to bank account. Have not had access to that in years. I did try a little annoying behavior to get him to leave and scream at him for hours telling him all the things I have been saving up for the last 20 years.

Now he is accusing me about some text messages? I don't know what the blank he's even talking about. What on earth would any of this matter I just want his [censored] gone. I am really starting to get depressed again. Its too stressful. He is threatening withholding FS but it would be worth it if he would just go.

I seriously cant even believe how crappy my life is. My step son today threw a 5 gallon bucket of water into my face because I was teasing him with the hose (sprayed lil water on him). It just sucks. At least I found a new CD to listen to. Cant print out the lyrics but at least I can listen.

I don't want him to go with me to any dr. I just want him gone. Matter of fact I wont let him go with me. I don't trust him as far as I can throw him.