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Im just glad to hopefully get it over with.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Court sucks and why cause it takes along time so I do not plan on coming back unless its for something like a traffic ticket or something minor.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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What was th court date about? Did it go in your favor?
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Well I had to delay the process of court the da gave me 2 choices to think about. 1 I get dm on a court probation with a no contact order with ww till its done. 2 get assault and battery and still have a no contact order. This ruins my plan's for plan a and hurts my chances with saving my marriage. Man this upsets me.
Last edited by Chitenator; 06/19/13 05:28 PM.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Im thinking about going to trial. I dont care about the fines and my record but tge no contact order will be the killing blow to my marriage. Any advice would help alot in thinking about my next move.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Guess im screwed the police warped my words in the report saying I admitted to punching her. When I said I pushed her.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ill think of something I am going to look at the report and think of something.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Oh talked to dsd today and she is doing good. She also told me posom was kicked out of his parents house because of thier relationship and is living on his buddies couch.
P.s. sorry for my rants about my situation. I still have hope.
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Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Guess im screwed the police warped my words in the report saying I admitted to punching her. When I said I pushed her. Do you have a lawyer?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yeah. I have been thinking long and hard all day. I think it is time to pay the piper with option 2 om was the biggest victom of my wraith. I hope I can eek by and the judge forgets prolonging the no contact order. Also I learned a very valuable lessen that police are lazy and plea the fifth.
Yes i do have a lawyer I asked him if I had a chance if it went to trial and the situation would not have a chance.
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Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Oh can emotional stress cause headaches? Since this whole mess I have been getting them bad and often now.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Oh can emotional stress cause headaches? Since this whole mess I have been getting them bad and often now. Yes. When can you get into your doctor? Maybe just get a check up? So your lawyer said you don't have a chance? Did I read that right?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yep it would be my word against the police.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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It just sucks that no matter what it seems I will get a no contact order with the ww. It would hurt my chances dramaticly of recovering my marriage I would think.
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Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Well did a check up and im fine its just headaches caused by stress and normal ib profen should work. And today I just had a good and normal day stress free, I also had no reason to be very happy and excited so hopefully its a spider sense that something good will come my way. :-)
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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It just sucks that no matter what it seems I will get a no contact order with the ww. It would hurt my chances dramaticly of recovering my marriage I would think. When will you know? I'm glad you had the headaches checked out. Do you exercise?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yeah I work out and my final court date is july 3rd. I hope if its goes that route I hope its for 30 more days cause this is driving me insane that I cant talk to her. I still have hope. She still thinks im going out of my way to make life hard on her but I have done nothing. Guess she thinks that its my fault for her choices and the after math that entrails.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Took dsd out for dinner yesterday it was good. Guess ww is stalking me on face book and also she hid pics from posom with me and her instead of deleting them like he wanted her to. I also found out she stole one of my shirts.
I guess she is missing me. Hopefully that info is a good sign.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Tomorrow is my ww's b-day thinking of getting her a card nothing to fancy. Guess posom could not afford a b-day gift for ww. Hope she is secound guessing him.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Tomorrow is my ww's b-day thinking of getting her a card nothing to fancy. Guess posom could not afford a b-day gift for ww. Hope she is secound guessing him. I thought there was a NC ordered?
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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