And yes, I took this from one of the older threads I believe it is Eve's Plan B letter.


My Dearest H,

What I am about to say comes from my heart and it is the most difficult thing that I've ever had to do in my life.

I love you with all of my heart. Even with all that has happened, I still consider you my best friend, I still believe that you are the most wonderful man I've ever known, I am still so very emotionally and physically attracted to you, and I still believe that we are meant to spend forever together. However, everytime I see you or talk to you part of my heart is torn because I want so much for things to be different. I want so much more than you are willing to give to me right now.

I want you to know that I am so sorry for my part in creating the environment that helped to make the affairs possible. I deeply regret that I did not give you the time, attention, and affection that you needed to be happy. I am desperately hoping that one day you will forgive me and allow us to create a new future together.

During the past month and a half, I have been learning what a marriage should be and I've tried to show you love, protection and care in the limited time that we've had together. I have learned so many important things. It's like a light bulb came on for me and I now know what is needed to make our marriage a happy, loving and supportive place to be. I have made so many changes. Some you may have noticed and some you have yet to discover. Most importantly I have learned that there isn't anybody or anything as important to me as you are.

Whatever problems we had, I am confident that we can overcome them and that we can create a new lifestyle that allows us to spend time together meeting each others needs so that we can both be happy. I imagine a new life together, no more angry fights, no more destruction of our stuff, no more hiding and lying. I still see us having more children together on our farm and riding our four wheelers.

I have tried so hard to stay connected to you even under these extremely difficult circumstances and I treasure every contact that we have. However, the current situation has become too painful for me to endure. Knowing that you are with someone else tears me to pieces. At times the thoughts are unbearable.

Yet I still have hope that one day we can truly recover the good times we have had and create a new life together that represents total commitment to each other, caring about and meeting each others needs, protecting each others feelings, complete honesty, and spending time together.

So I'm asking you to please understand that I need to protect my feelings for you so that if you decide to give our marriage a new chance, I will still love you and want to try again. The only way I can think of to do this is to end all contact with you until your affair has ended. I say this with tears in my eyes because this is not what I want. But knowing that you are with someone else everyday is destroying the love I have for you.

Please do not call me, send e-mails, texts, or leave voice messages unless you have permanently separated from OW and have decided that you want to work on building a new relationship with me.


It is not that I don't want you in my life...I want that more than anything...but I want all of you and I want you all to myself. Sharing you is just too painful.

If you should decide that you want to work on building a new relationship with me, I promise you that I will leave the past behind us. I will ask only that you do the same. I hope that one day you will decide to allow us to begin again.

I loved you when I met you. I loved you when I married you and I continue to love you to this day. I will love you forever.