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Only the best advice givers and skilled virtual marriage salvagers have the intestinal fortitude to come on here day in and day out and dole out the straight forward unfiltered reality of saving a marriage once subjected to infidelity. You were one of them.
Sure some come and help fix up lost souls and disappear only to return down the road.
I may have missed why you left the boards (or, if in fact, you are actually back), but it's not the same.
You have stuck up for me, chastised me, implored me, fought me, and more than anything righted me when I was sinking.
This is not a perfect science and that's where I've I had my issues. Some things are not able to be covered by even the broadest strokes. I found that you quite often straddled the mb way and supported some of the outlying realities of infidelity recovery.
I post only on rare occasions because of several reasons I've discussed on my pages, but I do like to read the threads and yours are musts.
I hope all is well.
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Life keeps on slipping, slipping, slipping into the fuuuu-ture.
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This is not a perfect science and that's where I've I had my issues. Some things are not able to be covered by even the broadest strokes. I found that you quite often straddled the mb way and supported some of the outlying realities of infidelity recovery. With all due respect, when someone says it is not a perfect science, it is almost always from someone who is not in a recovered marriage. It is a very perfect science, and while there are some difficult areas in the APPLICATION of some principles, the principles are very exact. Almost without exception, those who have deviated from this program have been met with disaster. The people in recovered marriages don't believe in deviations, they believe in a strict path. The plan I recommend for recovery after an affair is very specific. That's because I've found that even small deviations from that plan are usually disastrous. But when it's followed, it always works. The plan has two parts that must be implemented sequentially. The first part of the plan is for the unfaithful spouse to completely separate from the lover and eliminate the conditions that made the affair possible. The second part is for the couple to create a romantic relationship, using my Basic Concepts as a guide. here
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It would be nice for you to say thanks for the compliment like: Only the best advice givers and skilled virtual marriage salvagers have the intestinal fortitude to come on here day in and day out and dole out the straight forward unfiltered reality of saving a marriage once subjected to infidelity. rather than taking every opportunity to point out what I already know to be true. I didnt really ask for update on your thoughts on my marriage. I really only wanted to hear from my friend who, I believe, would agree with my statement.
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Why thank you. The reason I have the intestinal fortitude to come here day and day out is because I have reaped the benefits of this program.. I want that same thing for others. As such, I also want them to know there is a very strict path. There are no broad brushes... Best wishes to you, Mike. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It would be nice for you to say thanks for the compliment like: Only the best advice givers and skilled virtual marriage salvagers have the intestinal fortitude to come on here day in and day out and dole out the straight forward unfiltered reality of saving a marriage once subjected to infidelity. When I try to place a phone call and nobody answers, I find that I can accept one of two possibilities: 1. Conclude that I am being ignored and go away offended. 2. Accept the likely possibility that the call simply didn't go through.
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Even though he gave me my share of 2x4's, I know I miss him around here.
His analogies alone were worth the price of admission...
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I received an email from NG today.
He asked me to pass on this message----
"�NG and Bride are well, in health and in marital posture.
�He will no longer be posting, but is reading the current threads, praying for positive resolutions, and wishes all at MB a better future."
Now, let's get on with helping those still struggling.....
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