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Color me impressed, FC -- Way to go! How did FTF respond when you told him?
Mrs. W I keep forgetting to tell him! I should send him a text right now before I forget. So what did he say?
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It's fine I guess. I just don't want to do it with him Why not? And try to make it more than one sentence. Are there still lovebusters? Is he not meeting your intimate EN's? I didn't see you answer these questions.
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I didn't see you answer these questions. Yes, some. I admit I need to do a better job of telling him about them instead of letting them fester. We do have good conversations during our UA time. And I try to be as affectionate as possible on our dates.
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What do you have planned this week for your 25 hours of UA time?
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First step of both of you doing something as a team to protect your marriage. Say that out loud to him. You guys desperately need to start viewing this from a team perspective. This marriage belongs to both of you -- it needs to be valued by both of you as something very precious. FC, do you feel cherished by your husband? Is that something important to you? If so, what kinds of things would make you feel that you are cherished by him? What things make you feel that he doesn't cherish you? I ask these questions because "lack of feeling cherished" is a common theme I've seen amongst wives who had affairs -- myself included. The word "cherished" itself seems to resonant deeply with a lot of women. I wonder if you are among them. Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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FC, let me ask - have you listened to Dr. Harley's radio show on any kind of regular basis? You might find some insight there as far as what kind of feedback your husband needs in order to become your best friend, integrated into your life.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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What do you have planned this week for your 25 hours of UA time? We haven't even talked about it yet
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First step of both of you doing something as a team to protect your marriage. Say that out loud to him. You guys desperately need to start viewing this from a team perspective. This marriage belongs to both of you -- it needs to be valued by both of you as something very precious. FC, do you feel cherished by your husband? Is that something important to you? If so, what kinds of things would make you feel that you are cherished by him? What things make you feel that he doesn't cherish you? I ask these questions because "lack of feeling cherished" is a common theme I've seen amongst wives who had affairs -- myself included. The word "cherished" itself seems to resonant deeply with a lot of women. I wonder if you are among them. Mrs. W I used to when we first started dating. He used to write me love letters and take me on surprise trips.
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FC, let me ask - have you listened to Dr. Harley's radio show on any kind of regular basis? You might find some insight there as far as what kind of feedback your husband needs in order to become your best friend, integrated into your life. Not on a regular basis but we sometimes listen to it together when there's something interesting on
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FC, let me ask - have you listened to Dr. Harley's radio show on any kind of regular basis? You might find some insight there as far as what kind of feedback your husband needs in order to become your best friend, integrated into your life. Not on a regular basis but we sometimes listen to it together when there's something interesting on I would really suggest making it regular. There is a lot in there that can help you find a way that both of you can be happy in life together.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Seconded. Listening to the radio show daily for a couple of years really helped cement good habits and thought processes!
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Hi, DoNoMo! It's always a pleasure to see you post!
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Glad to be around. Testing triggers by replying to threads. Seems I'm past the worst of it (four years later).
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Glad to be around. Testing triggers by replying to threads. Seems I'm past the worst of it (four years later). Yeah! There's hope for those of us who are behind you on the recovery road...
Me: BW, 57 fWH: 63 (Taffy1) Serial cheater
Presently on the Recovery Road, in the Online program.
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