Action Movies + Beer + Sports + Knows how to fix things = My kind of guy

Buh-bye!!

I've never understood the Simpsons, I mean, what is so funny about that?

My dad says that only an idiot adult would watch cartoons.
I started watching it and found humor with simpsons, and othet adult cartoons

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Lately, I have been having quite a few text conversations with a woman nearly 2000 miles away.
I know this can't proceed far but Its given me opportunity to practice communication with the opposite sex and I have enjoyed it
She found me on facebook, after reading one of my comments and tgat is where the communication started.
And yes, she is divorced. (I actually checked with the court website to verify)

Actually when I text with her I feel like I love her.
I assume its because shes meeting my needs for conversation?

Is she physically attractive? Does she say admiring things to you? Those would be my guesses...

Just a note about the Simpsons......

you could not find a more devoted husband than Homer Simpson.

He adored his wife Marge!

This is why you need to keep more friendships going. Your are fresh in this world. The admiration can be intoxicating in the beginning.

Pull yourself back, and engage others in IC. That way you can start to compare/contrast the outcome. It gives you something to grow from...like an initial baseline.

Is this someone you used to know and re-connected with?
Why only text conversations vs. a regular, speaking conversation?

If this is the first woman since your divorce to meet your need for conversation, that explains your feelings. It's "easier" when you're texting ... you get brave.

No. I didn't reconnect with her
I met her on facebook. She liked (I mean appreciated, not clicking like button) a comment I made on a page and she sent me a friend request.
Yhen we started talking.

Yes it has been text because I have terrible phone service in my house.
I've tried to cut my phone bill and go to VOIP phone and I can't talk in my house.
I can j n other areas.
I will be moving soon and have high speed jnternet when I do

I would LOVE to hear more about spotting in online profiles...green flags, too!

I've run the first-date gauntlet 23 times, and I think I'm being pretty discerning pre-first-date. Unfortunately, not one man floated my boat (OK!OK!, Dream Dude doesn't count cause I met him in person! He made my boat jump out of the water...)

What do others look for before accepting a first date? I don't want to waste their/my time, and I'm not sure I've got the energy to do another round of 23!

What did all you successful online-daters-turned-fiancees look for?

(Can you tell I'm getting ready to un-hide my profile again?)

Z, lol hon my fiancee had *just* got on line. The photo didn't do him justice, it was totally washed out. His profile was barely filled out. But he was very easy to talk to.

I didn't take much time to get myself back together. I think you are doing great with that. A friend who is happily married to a guy she met online would talk to multiple guys for months, they would drop out, and the ones who were left, she knew they had a good connection to be able to sustain that, and weren't just looking for someone to jump into bed with.

I think you just have to go with your gut instincts. I wanted to meet anyone I had a good email exchange with. Timely responses that were conversational and not just a one-line response where he was thinking about what he was writing. I wanted to meet anyone who was funny - dry, boring emails will not keep my attention. If a man took days to respond and when he did it was short, or there were grammatical or spelling errors, I didn't like it. 1) I need more attention than that, and 2) I feel spelling and grammar are important. It says a lot about a person.

I liked my BFs profile when I saw it, but I wouldn't have met him if he hadn't found me because he was outside of my age-range. I had it capped at 5 years older than me, and he's 7 years older. I didn't think I was likely to find a man older than 40 who still wanted kids. And, to be 100% honest, I wasn't sure if I would be attracted to him in person. He had several photos posted but none of them did him any justice. But I liked his personality as we kept exchanging emails and when I met him in person I was like, Whoa! Not what I had expected. He's actually gorgeous, at least I think so.

NED, so happy for you! I have tried going out with guys I don't find super-attractive. Some of them are surprisingly easy to talk to - but I haven't gotten the butterflies yet.

Ugh, I almost don't want to do this again. It's tiring.

OK, off to learn more! I'll probably wait til the holidays are finished. Thanks for the tip, NED

I like this, JustMe! Conversation has to be good via email - and funny is a must for me, too.

And you took a chance on him, even though you weren't sure you'd be attracted to him? That's awesome. I guess when it clicks, it clicks. So happy for you!

So...is he MB material, and how can you tell? Was it hard to fall in love again/let down your guard? Or did it just 'feel right?'

That's probably my greatest struggle right now: nobody feels even close to right. I mean...other than the Felon *snort*

...Come to think of it, I've noticed that certain guys' emails are really long - and they talk about themselves a LOT. Surprise surprise, in person they are self-absorbed. Hmmm. A clue?

And the one whose emails were funny, and our senses of humor 'clicked' - I enjoyed his company and we ended up dating for 1.5 months. (I found a few of his habits uncomfortable - and they weren't things he was willing to adjust, so "poof.") But it was at least a start! And I didn't find him physically attractive at first either, but grew to like him.

I appreciate the advice! It's helping me process and think about getting out there.

If anyone else wants to share, I'm all ears.

I think he is MB material. I've never talked to him about this site specifically, but we've had our POJA moments and they've happened naturally because it's just the right thing to do. He does exhibit "buyer" behavior as well. It's been so easy with him ... as they say, when you know, you know.

I was just looking through the relationship want adds while I was making dinner. This girl is seriously funny.

She titles her add, "Are those your skis? Both of them?" Then puts this in the title:



I think this is the first time I ever laughed out loud looking at personals.

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