You already responded that you don't have the tub or anything of XW.

If XSIL ever inquires about the necklace again, let her know her sister probably has it since you do not. Matter of factly.

I spent spent 1.5 hours talking with this woman.
We have been texting all day.
When I came home today there was a letter from her.

I wrote her a letter.

I'm happier now than I havr heen in a long long time

Jedi Knight,
I know you are a Christian man, who is full of integrity and good character, yet you are infatuated with someone I see as questionable. What does she mean by feeling raw and exposed and vulnerable to your desires? She longs to feel your breath? Her dreams are explicit and full of passion? I guess there would be nothing wrong with having flirty conversations with sexual innuendos since you are a bachelor, but reading from your past posts, this does not seem like something you would go for. I would proceed cautiously. She seems like she is using her words to ignite something in you that may be hard to be delivered long distance?? Just wondering if you may want to wait around for someone local who may be a little more down to earth. Just my 2 cents.

Hi Jedi. Thanks for sharing your experiences here, as it helps me understand the guys' POV. It's a jungle out there!

Quick question, at the risk of sounding obtuse: why are you communicating with her? (No judgment or latent advice here, just trying to understand)

I confess I enjoy the conversations.
I don't think they are sinful.
The Song of Solomon describes sex and passion.

Why do I speak with her? I like her a lot.

If I sound crazy let me know.
I know I have a bad track record so I have kept my sister informed of everything for perspective.
She says I should proceed with caution but felt that I (1) get practice talking to women and (2) if the lady is truthful it could turn into something serious.
My sister said people meet out of state and use web cams and get married and move.

The conversations are not sinful. But this woman is trying to get you addicted to her. She knows that you are vulnerable and is preying on you.

Start asking some tough questions and see how she responds.

What questions ?

I can answer this because I do it too. My cell phone does not work inside my house. BUT, I can either text or use my land line. Could it be that her cell phone does not work inside her house?

I don't know but I did talk to her for abt 90 minutes on her phone in the apt.
I know she was there because I could hear her daughter in the background.
I don't think she's hiding a live in boyfriend.
She also posts stuff to me on facebook too

This is the letter she wrote and mailed to me (on nice stationary):

Dearest Jedi,

Before I found you I had not thought this possible. I hadn't known any other to share my thoughts beliefs and dreams. I hold our friendship close to my heart not willing to let any harm come to what we have together.

I find myself wanting more of you as each day passes. I want to stop time so that I may be able to spend time getting to know you more.

I want to bridge the distance that is between us and be a part of your life amd you in mine.

I will accept our fate and be satisfied with any part that you are willing to share. Never did I expect to find a man like you.

With love,
(Ill call her Dominique - alias)

Ex ww gave the kids christmas ornaments and decorations and a table centerpiece.
She also told them she was bringing a tree (fake tree) next week for them to set up.
I told them that we will not be setting up a tree she brings and we willpick kne out together.
I also will not have her centerpiece on our table!
Is it reasonable to say, You can keep it in your rooms but not the living areas?

Jedi,

Take it slow. See where it takes you. Sounds like both of your love banks are getting filled faster than a Las Vegas slot machine. The empty heart has a voracious appetite and things can rev up fast as they have with you. I wish you well.

Regarding the ornaments and tree, your XW should keep them at her place if the kids are there often. These are tough issues because they pit the children between you and your ex. You should not have to be subjected to her Christmas tree and center pieces.

To answer your question, yes, its reasonable to ask them to keep the ornaments and decorations from their mom in their rooms. That is exactly how handled the things my FWW gave my girls when she was having the affair. I told them, "These are yours but they are hurtful for me to see (they came from overseas where the POSOM lived) so please keep them out of my sight."

I spoke with her for nearly 3 hours yesterday.
we send text to each other throughout the day.
if there are questions I should be asking please let me know as I have discussed marriage Builders principlesand she seems very much on the same page

I am going to California to visit relatives in May and I'm going to visit her then

I'm very much find myself falling in love with her

I sent her flowers today at work. my sister helped me choose which ones

Awwww!

Have you discussed whether one of you is willing to move to be together? I know you have full custody but would your ex have to sign off on that? What about her ex? Under normal circumstances I'd say it's too early to have this talk but it seems you two are moving at lightning speed.

How much background checking have you done, beyond her Facebook page and court documents?

I don't think you sound crazy at all. I think it's totally natural to enjoy being 'someone special' to someone special.

For the record, I doubt you need "practice" talking to women - I'll bet it comes easily to you when you're attracted to someone

Heck, maybe you'll find a way to meet someday!

Wow!! Thumbs up!

(We could tell you were falling in love...so cute)

Now THAT'S "online dating" at its finest!

Can you skype? (no hanky-panky now! lol)