<BR>Hi D, thank you for your thoughts. I am sorry for your story. Almost as sorry as mine. This is such a personal question and feel free not to respond - I am separated from my H, ow is due in Jan. I am trying to figure out to stay or go. It seems like the decision to stay is equally as difficult. What put you over the top and helped you decide? I am a waffler - see note to all wafflers of a few days back. I don't know what to do. I love my H but I am bitter and have lost all trust by his actions. Although he thinks I'm nuts, I feel that his MIL might have an interest in oc even though he doesn't and If I am not around, maybe they both will. I just don't know what to do. I guess I am just curious as to where you found your strength and love to move ahead in this sh___y situation? Thanks for your thoughts.