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He said that is how the Chinese are.
I didn't know.
I know the Indians are this way. I've done business with several Indians and they all tell me that they pre arrange marriages
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How unbelievably reductive.
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He said that is how the Chinese are.
I didn't know.
I know the Indians are this way. I've done business with several Indians and they all tell me that they pre arrange marriages Some Chinese are that way but not all. Arranged marriages are very MB. The families are very close knit and often live multi generationally. Parents look for matches that fit the personality of their child and for someone from the same cultural background. The young people meet and decide if the chemistry is there. If it is not, both move on with no hard feelings. A spouse chosen this way will always get the full support of the family because they helped to select him/her. This resolves one of the greatest stresses that can happen in a family. These marriages can be extraordinarily successful. I know young Indians, both girls and boys, who have asked their parents to help arrange marriages rather than finding their own love match.
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I have read that arranged marriages have the same success rate as the do it on your own. Not all Indians and Chinese have arranged marriages.
The girl you like can be westernized and open to either way.
You definitely have no chance of dating her because you will not ask her.
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She could always tell you, if you inquire about a date
if she will go on one, if she is not interested or if she will not date without family input.
BTW...you don't have to try to date her.
You can keep on looking for potential women who you might feel more comfortable schmoozing with and asking out.
There is a whole world out there full of single women waiting for you to cross their paths.
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Yes Reading. Thats my plan.
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Dude,
It's paralysis by analysis right now. If you're attracted to someone ask her out and find out for yourself it its a good match. Cease and desist with the profiling since its causing you to over-think things. That's why Dr. Harley says date at least 40 people so that you can find out through the process.
And if you're looking for Mrs. Perfect it's going to show when you start dating women and I think that is going to work against you. Gonna make things a little uptight, methinks. Let the process unfold a little more naturally. Relax Brah, and have fun with it.
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Well, I was talking to three women online...
and all of them backed off when they found out I have my 3 kids full time.
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I think that is a blessing for you that they did that before you became emotionally invested.
"Get busy living, or get busy dying"...... The Shawshank Redemption.
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It also depends on how 'Americanized' the Asian family is. I have seen dozens of my graduated students that are Asian marry and none were arranged marriages.
Seriously, go backYou're bacon me crazy hahahaha. Ask if she would like to have lunch with you or meet for coffee if she is not in an exclusive relationship.
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I met 2 women at the skate rink tonight.
I went up, introduced myself, made small chat.
The next time I see them ill ask for their phone number.
I started growing a mustache, which Is bound to attract women
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LOL on the mustache. Some women don't like them......
Anyway. Good job getting in action online and IRL.
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Everyone's different. I would take raising 3 kids on your own a very positive sign that you have what it takes to be there even when it's *tough*.
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If you have it stated in your profile somewhere.....
you will attract women who find the fact endearing and attractive.
Some women are not ready to share a man with their children to that extent and some are up to the experience and would love it.
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I posted in my profile "single father of 3 wonderful children"
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Okay.
Make sure it says
'single father of 3 wonderful children who live with me full time.'
That'll help!
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Im starting to encounter a problem....
my new mustache is growing a personality of its own...
it is demanding that I try to grow a fancy mustache but I just want a normal mustache.
How would Dr Harley recommend to apply the POJA in this situation?
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Well, I was talking to three women online...
and all of them backed off when they found out I have my 3 kids full time. Some women might be afraid your exW is crazy or drug-addled, or other drama. When the guy has the kids full-time, it can make some women nervous. Not a reflection of whether they like kids...perhaps just a fear of "why." So if you can explain the situation and alleviate concerns about it, it might help? Not sure if they've given you the chance. 50/50s tell me that both parents are loving and involved, and emotionally healthy. It's just a quick barometer, not always a fair assessment. Sorry it's tricky - online dating is full of snap judgments.
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Well, I was talking to three women online...
and all of them backed off when they found out I have my 3 kids full time. Some women might be afraid your exW is crazy or drug-addled, or other drama. When the guy has the kids full-time, it can make some women nervous. Not a reflection of whether they like kids...perhaps just a fear of "why." So if you can explain the situation and alleviate concerns about it, it might help? Not sure if they've given you the chance. 50/50s tell me that both parents are loving and involved, and emotionally healthy. It's just a quick barometer, not always a fair assessment. Sorry it's tricky - online dating is full of snap judgments. Well in Ohio the standard order for parenting is not 50/50. It is every other weekend and every wed for the non residential parent.
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