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Love you babe.

Thank you for giving us a future together.

Growing old with you is my anniversary wish.

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Happy anniversary, you two!


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Happy anniversary, you two!

Yes, Happy Anniversary, friend.


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Thanks! 20year and I are looking forward to many more anniversaries!

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How are things?


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Brainhurts,

20year and I have had several good weeks. I realized a few moments during that time that I actually felt, for lack of a better word, normal. I never thought it would be possible to have that feeling again. It was an encouraging sign.
This past Monday, we did have a set back. I addressed it in the Operation Investigation forum. In a nutshell, the GPS on my iphone showed I was somewhere I was not. My honesty will always be in question and I understand and agree with that. I did what I thought proved I was at my desk, but the uncertainty with 20year will always be there. It was a setback but we are working through it and today is a better day for us!
Thanks for asking Brainhurts!


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So did you get a different GPS unit?

How has your UA time going? I'm glad you're still doing the work for Recovery.

Stay the course, friend.


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Brainhurts,

I looked up the device RocketQueen suggested, Pocketfinder. It appears to be what I had in mind. I will talk with 20year tonight about it as an added precaution.

Our UA is still not what it should be and what we would like it to be. We get approximately 10-14 hours a week. It is still a struggle but both of us are on the same page to get it increased.

We are definately still using the Marriage Builders plan and plan to use the principles for the rest of our lives. It was/is a life saver.


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Originally Posted By: clearmind

Our UA is still not what it should be and what we would like it to be. We get approximately 10-14 hours a week. It is still a struggle but both of us are on the same page to get it increased.


Are you two sitting down and scheduling the time every week?


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SusieQ,

We have 2 standing date nights a week, Wednesdays and an evening on the weekend. Those 2 days each week are pretty consistant. We fill in the rest of UA time after the kids go to bed, which is usually not the ideal time.


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Brainhurts,

Could you link the Dec 10, 2013 show???

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Originally Posted By: clearmind
Brainhurts,

Could you link the Dec 10, 2013 show???

Here you go. Was one of these segments yours? The first 3 are our poster Fancy's call.
Radio Clip of Dec 10, 2013
Segment #2
Segment #3
Segment #4
Segment #5


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Brainhurts,
Thanks for the link! and yes, segments 4 and 5 include an emailed question to the Harleys from 20year (aka Steve).


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I just listened to that clip today (thanks for requesting the link!). It was very helpful for me.

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Thank you for asking and posting! This was helpful to hear.

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Branhurts,

Could you post the 1-29-14 show, specifically the part about the in-laws?

Thanks!


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Originally Posted By: clearmind
Branhurts,

Could you post the 1-29-14 show, specifically the part about the in-laws?

Thanks!

I sure will, as soon as it hits the archives.


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Branhurts,

Could you post the 1-29-14 show, specifically the part about the in-laws?

Thanks!

I sure will, as soon as it hits the archives.

Is this the clip clearmind?

Radio Clip on In-laws


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Thanks Brainhurts! That's the one. I listened on the way into work this morning.

I have another request. Could you post the show from, I think, this past Friday about emotional reactions.

Thank you


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Originally Posted By: clearmind
Thanks Brainhurts! That's the one. I listened on the way into work this morning.

I have another request. Could you post the show from, I think, this past Friday about emotional reactions.

Thank you

You're welcome.

I'll add it to my list.


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