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The advice that Dr Harley would recommend is Plan B
have you read about Plan B?
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Lacole, have you ever told your WH that he needs to leave? That you refuse to live with someone who is not participating in the marriage? Have you asked your lawyer about getting him out?
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You need to get him out of the house so you can get into plan B and you and the kids can have some peace! It's terrible that you and your children have to live this way.
I would be more concerned with this than anything else right now.
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Husband served. Absolutely NO reaction. Not a peep.
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Husband served. Absolutely NO reaction. Not a peep. Good. Let him stew. How are you and the kids? Do you have an IM to take care of any possible contact? PS. He did move out, right?
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He hasn't moved out yet. A few weeks ago he had big plans to leave and seemed close to doing it...his plan seemed to fizzle out.
Hopefully being served will give him the incentive he needs.
Surprised over his non reaction. Either he is on shock I actually did it or he is so thankful he is speechless....
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He hasn't moved out yet. A few weeks ago he had big plans to leave and seemed close to doing it...his plan seemed to fizzle out. Kiss had done the same thing (big plans) but nothing happened...so I packed for him 
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I can ask him to leave 100 times, but until a court forces him out or if he was physically abusive, he isn't required yet. Not in my state anyway.
Thoughts on no reaction??
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I can ask him to leave 100 times, but until a court forces him out or if he was physically abusive, he isn't required yet. Not in my state anyway.
Thoughts on no reaction?? It's hard to say. You probably shocked him. I'm curious how he will act when you see him. When will he be "home"?
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Did your lawyer file for "exclusive use of marital home"?
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Lacole,
Has your attorney talked to you about filing for separation and doing a civil standby with a police officer? Does your state allow for this?
W (me) - 40
H - 44
M 15 years, 2 kids
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So according to the marshal, he was no expecting to be served.
Also, his friend that works wit him said he was beyond pissed.
Listen, you can't me you don't love me, care about me, have wanted a divorce for years and regret marrying me 21 years ago and then be mad and shocked to get divorce papers!!
On top of it, he has not said a word to me and acts line nothing is wrong or different....
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After talking to some friends/family about his reaction, he truly seems not to have a soul. He is vacant. No emotion or reaction.
Has anyone experienced this? I know there isn't anything I need to be doing, just curious to get some insight...
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Lacole:
I think he is purposefully not reacting to you. And his stance is having the effect he wants... It is really irritating you.
It also seems to me that you really WANTED to get a big reaction out of him!
Me: BW, 57 fWH: 63 (Taffy1) Serial cheater
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No - his lack of response is not surprising. That has always been his ammo.
I'm just floored how he can be so robotic/vancant/empty.
Other then hoping to irritate me, which is isn't, as more perplexed,
What is he hoping to gain.??
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After talking to some friends/family about his reaction, he truly seems not to have a soul. He is vacant. No emotion or reaction.
Has anyone experienced this? I know there isn't anything I need to be doing, just curious to get some insight... Who can know what is going on in his head? Focus on what you can control....like getting into Plan B.
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After talking to some friends/family about his reaction, he truly seems not to have a soul. He is vacant. No emotion or reaction.
Has anyone experienced this? I know there isn't anything I need to be doing, just curious to get some insight... Who can know what is going on in his head? Focus on what you can control....like getting into Plan B. Agreed!
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I am focusing on me and moving forward.
Still am curious....I guess he wants to inflict his own punishment on me. Make himself feel better. He wanted this...he should be kissing the ground, not punishing me....
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lacole,
It seems to me that you have exited Plan A awhile ago and are now in a cold war with your husband. If you can't Plan A, then go to Plan B. Or stay in Plan Cold War.
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I filed for divorce. Husband was served. Husband moving out.
I'm in plan B.
Just looking to understand how reaction or lack there of.
Never been through a divorce before.
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