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I can be cordial and respectful.
But he wants this, he wants to leave and start over, has made this very clear.
I don't know about cooking his fav meal but I have no intentions of yelling, screaming or getting upset.
Is this so he realizes how great he had it any wants to come back? He will never be back....he wants To be out to badly.
Is it so his last memories with me are good? I could be a saint and he would still only remember the bad.....
But can I do it for me?? Yep...
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Then do it...make the next 2 days spectacular.
Okay?
Cook his favorite meals!
Smile!
Dont say he will never be back. conflict will start when he is with OW and you are in plan B.
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Then do it...make the next 2 days spectacular.
Okay?
Cook his favorite meals!
Smile This is an awesome idea, Lacole!
W (me) - 40
H - 44
M 15 years, 2 kids
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I will do my best to make the next few days positive.
Thx all!
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Then do it...make the next 2 days spectacular.
Okay?
Cook his favorite meals!
Smile This is an awesome idea, Lacole! Ditto.
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Hi all - well H moved out last weekend. Only took his clothes and coffee maker so it didn't take long and I was gone for most of it.
I do have to say, it's like a negative light has lifted from the house. My and the kids are less stressed, no more walking on eggshells and just enjoying eachother.
Of course, I have not seen or spoke to H. He did get papers served yesterday forcing him to court next week regarding financial support, which I'm sure he isn't happy about, but who cares.
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Okay, now you need to enter Plan B.
Have you read about plan B?
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Yes. I did have one question....
I'm not waiting for H to end affair....I'm totally done at this point. How long does plan B last when your divorcing?
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Plan B doesn't end even after divorce...unless something happened that made reconciliation a safe possibility where EP's are put into place.
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Yes. I did have one question....
I'm not waiting for H to end affair....I'm totally done at this point. How long does plan B last when your divorcing? Dr. Harley would encourage you to be in Plan B until divorce, and then continue having no direct contact with him after divorce... But lets focus on Plan B during divorce... Do you have an IM?
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FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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