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I discovered the woman in the photo works with my husband. She's single and he's not, obviously. He said she's a player with all the men, and is "temporary" help. I don't know how I would expose her since she has no husband or boyfriend who would care. I am confused. You said the woman in the photo was a stripper. Your husband works in a strip joint? How were you able to find out who she is? Did your husband admit to an affair with a co-worker? AM
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WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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This Valentine's Day was the worst ever! What happened?
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H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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My husband still thinks I had an affair 5 years ago and blames it on his lack of interest. Did you? Will you take a polygraph?
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Do you think there's hope for our wilted marriage? My husband still thinks I had an affair 5 years ago and blames it on his lack of interest. What book should I read? I've read all the on-line stuff and listened to reasons why I shouldn't be traveling. Where do I go next? Will you stop traveling?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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So your husband works at a strip club or does a stripper work at the same company as your husband?
And you still maintain that you were cuddling with a woman at a movie but your husband thought it was a man but just left without saying anything?
You never answered the question about knowing the poster 235.
What I find strange is when posters starting questioning you about your inconsistencies and dismissive advice towards inappropriate behavior with others, suddenly the story of your husband keeps snowballing more and more.
Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)
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My husband admitted he's been seeing another woman regularly. He said its just for coffee but I have doubts. I;d like to save my marriage -- and make it much better. I was willing to change jobs but now I don't know what to do!
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I can change jobs to save my marriage but I'm worried about my husband's "emotional" affair. I have reason to believe the other woman has been in my house for more than coffee!
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Is there a reason why you don't answer the questions on your thread?
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Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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I want to start a family but we haven't been close in years. Now he's seeing someone else. I feel like it's my fault. I gained a considerable amount of weight and don't look nearly as attractive now as I did then.
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Am I to blame for his affair?
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OK. Please go back through this thread and answer ALL the questions.
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Absolutely. I got nothing to hide. Where do go?
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Start on page one and click the reply or quote button at the bottom for each post that has a question.
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She's a "temp" at his office. He brought several photos home of her with other guys. It was weird how he acted like they were trophy Prizes.
He's also meeting another, much younger girl at a coffee shop. One of my friends caught him there with her twice. Since then I found a hair barrette in the bathroom that wasn't mine.
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I don't understand why, but I still love him and want my marriage to work. I believe if I follow the steps in the love bank it would be a great start.
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My husband admitted to having a girl "friend."
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My husband has a friend who is a girl, He admitted it only after I confronted him because a friend of mine saw them together in a coffee shop -- twice!
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Okay I think I answered all of them. My situation has worsened over the past week.
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My husband still thinks I had an affair 5 years ago and blames it on his lack of interest. Did you? Will you take a polygraph? And these?
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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So your husband works at a strip club or does a stripper work at the same company as your husband?
And you still maintain that you were cuddling with a woman at a movie but your husband thought it was a man but just left without saying anything?
You never answered the question about knowing the poster 235.
What I find strange is when posters starting questioning you about your inconsistencies and dismissive advice towards inappropriate behavior with others, suddenly the story of your husband keeps snowballing more and more. And these?
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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