I live in New Mexico too. There is a fair amount of bad behavior here. Please don't add to it. Did you know that nationally one of our four women will experience domestic abuse but in NM it's one out of three? Interesting stuff.

Oh and back a ways on your thread it was eeyore (grumpy, depressed donkey from winnie the poo), not eyesore.

Just thought I'd clarify.

Did I put eyesore? Might have posted from my phone. It thinks it knows better than me what word I want.

As for driving - I have no choice. There is no reliable cab service or bus service. I have no one to chauffeur me around. But hey, let's turn this whole thread into a discussion about THAT.

Well, since you brought the subject up in the first place, yes, let's.

Does your ex wife know that you drive your kids around illegally?

It's irrelevant. The hearing officer is reinstating it.

What do you think about sending text messages to flirt with your ex wife?

I don't know. She is still seeing POSOM as far as I know. She doesn't text me any more, unless it has to do with the girls.

Well, in Plan A you would try to reach out to her

Interesting. I am talking to an old friend - female - and she keeps telling me to move on, let it go, etc.

She is divorced, of course.

Wow.. here is one of her little rants:

"it only matters that the kids and myself are happy NOW...I hardly EVER look back on my decisions regarding leaving my ex-husband. I'm just glad I did, I would NEVER go back and I regret absolutely nothing although I made plenty of mistakes...I regret NOTHING!!!"

Not to go off-topic, but I wonder what you'd say to this woman. Of course I don't know her history.

I could hear my xW saying that.

Another date with another woman tonight. I guess I am taking the "move on" advice.

Meh.. I am just not into this dating thing.

I've been thinking about what to write to the Harleys and I just don't know. At this point almost everyone is telling me that "what's done is done" and I should just move on and accept everything. I don't think I can ever forgive what she did to me and our family. I won't hold a grudge or be angry - I just won't be a part of her life. I've had people tell me about all this "co-parenting" nonsense and I am just not going to be a part of that cheater's life if she chooses to stay on the path that she is on.

I wouldn't mind a Plan A, but she just does not have any contact with me during the week. When I have texted her int he past, she ignores me. I do believe she would be happier if I were gone completely.

I think her actions during our marriage were a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. I don't think she ever wanted to be married to me.. She followed through with it to get away from her oppressive Christian parents. I think once she got a dose of reality, she regretted everything, and her treatment of me reflected that. She just didn't have the courage to leave before we had kids, and I wish she had. I could have had happy kids with a woman who respects me and treats me like a human being right now. But now I just have my own private slice of Godless Americana.

Well then it may be best to just focus on your invention and time with your girls

On that front, my engineer wants to see me this coming week for a long meeting. Apparently he has been putting some hours into it.

Okay, what do you make of this? I got the girls Friday evening as usual, was supposed to take them back Saturday evening. Got a text from the xW asking if I can keep them overnight because she is "exhausted". I agree, of course, as I always have when she asks anything of me. I expect a text this morning asking me to bring them back since this is her Sunday to have them. Here it is after 3:30pm and no text of the sort. Only one this morning asking how my 5 year old is (she has a fever this weekend and had some trouble breathing last night). I also noticed that the girls' bag was packed for two nights instead of one. Curious.

My theory? She had made plans last night or today but did not want to ask me to keep the girls, so she lied.

I guess nobody is reading this thread anymore. That's okay, I guess.

Finally texted the xW at 7:30pm tonight because I had heard NOTING from her all day. I said "Ill assume the girls are staying again." She thought I was serious. I WORK ON MONDAYS.

Then I told her that I had plans today which I had to cancel. Her response?

"You didn't have to keep them last night nor did you have to keep them the whole day. Don't be angry with me because you said yes. How was I to know you had plans today"

UN****INGBELIEVABLE.

Out of the fog? NOT EVEN CLOSE. There is no Plan A with the selfish creature. There is no Plan B. There is NO PLAN. She gets what she wants when she wants it. No consideration of others.

She only cares about herself

It has always been that way and I don't expect her to ever change. As soon as POSOM stops giving her exactly what she wants when she wants it, he will be history and it will be on to the next one.

Agree.

That's why people quit posting to you.

We have tried to lay out a plan for you, and you went right back to plan Blindsided, which has been your Modus Operandi.


You can only slap the hands offering aid away so many times before they stop extending.

I kept it together pretty good considering what she did. The things I was thinking about saying but didn't. She texted me later and I was perfectly civil.

I just thought for a moment that she'd be a but more considerate. I was just upset that she's apparently still fogged in.

Sir she will be in the fog as long as she is in an active affair....

Assumptions will always disappoint. The Sunday ordeal is as much your fault as hers. You assumed she would contact. She probably assumed everything was fine since you didn't. Next time make your arrangements ahead of time. Problem solved.