It has been awhile since I posted. I have been avoiding MB because sometimes it just keeps reminding me of all of the pain. But, I need some help/insight.<BR>Read my profile for background.<BR>Here is what has happened today. I checked my email and I had a message from the OW. It was in reference to her hanging on to a hope for the future with my H. This OW is pregnant and due in late dec or early jan.<BR>She says she is not sure who she is sorrier for me for staying or her for losing. She says she has not given up because my H cannot come right out and say it is over. She said that the last e mail he sent told her they had a future. She attached the email. The gist of it was that he loves her wants her to hold on for the future they can have and that it is only because of life interferring that they are not together now. It says I love you then now forever. The date on the email is oct 7. I conforonted my H and he says he did not send any such email. He said he knows he needs to talk with her and he will. A little background, this woman has reached out to me before and been ugly. whenever she has told me my H did or said something and it has been true my H has confessed when I have asked about it(this being phone conversations and the like). Now I checked to see if my H has any such email address on our computor and he does not. But, I have a copy of the supposed email. Is it possible for her to have contrived the whole thing with dates and the like in the address fields or did my H send it? tHIS WOMAN HAS JOINED MY GYM AND IS JUST A ROYAL PAIN. I so much want to believe my H but there is so little trust left in me where his lies are concerned that I would like a little help from you all to see if she could in fact fabricate the whole thing in an attempt to run me off.<BR>pw

PW - follow your instincts on this one. It IS possible to set up an email account from almost anywhere and e-mail yourself whatever you want. It's a real e-mail, so dates, times, everything would look right because they ARE.<P>It's also possible for your H to set up and e-mail address and get rid of it. SOOOOOO - only you can decide who's telling the truth. Use the other parts of your rebuilding as guidance.<P>Maybe, if he will, to show YOU his sincerity, you guys can write that "goodbye" (modified, of course for the situation) together and MAIL it together. That should help a lot, don't you think?<P>Good luck to you.<P>Lori

Thanks lostva<BR>The rebuilding is going ok but the lies that have been told in the past up til about a month ago are hard to clear away. Most of the the lies if not all were about contact in the form of phone calls supporting her lonliness and pregnancy.. She seems to always have been the one to call or page my H first usually with a 911 attached. This all came to light because of his cellphone bill. Anyway, I think I just need some help in firming up my belief that we might be on the road to recovery and that the raod is going to be long and winding but we will muddle through. I am finding that it is so hard to learn to put trust back out on the table because I am constantly getting my feet knocked out from under me. We have had a great three weeks and I was so hopeful and then she sent the email and wham I feel like I have been knocked down again. Thanks for the respose and I hope others will reply with insight.<BR>pw

HI,<BR> Just for the record there IS a way to forge an E-mail. All you have to do is hit respond, drag and copy all the info like e address time date etc.. and PASTE it into a NEW email and you can edit it to your hearts desire! Try it. Hope this helps you believe your husband. FRANK

PleaseHelp<BR>thank you. I will give it a try. I did talk with my H and he said that there is a good chance that over time he sent e mails that may have contained some of what was is the e mail she sent me, he said he has not e mailed her for over 3-4 months. The thing that blows my mind is that she paged my H last night to say she loved him, its like she just won't let go. My H is really confused by her. One minute she is e mailing me with ugliness and an I lost him attitude and the next she acts like she did'nt do it and all is right with the world. Go figure<BR>pw