It's not good to trickle out exposure. Why not expose on his side now?

I was wondering how her reaction was to exposure.

Yeah, I know I've botched the exposure. Again, I was advised not to do it at all by friends, family, and the MC. Also, I didn't discover MB until a month or two after I found out about the A.

As far as not exposing now? My excuse is about as lame as it gets. We have a trip planned to a resort, its already paid for. We made the plan a few months back when things seemed to be on an upswing. We both thought it would be nice to have something positive to work/save towards. It is beyond the point of cancellation, and I have no one else I could take with me on such short notice.

On top of that, I know there will be fallout from the exposure, that will potentially lead to a plan B. I want to make an effort that if that's the case, to make sure she has recent good memories from plan A. I figure some of the storm would have calmed down by the time we get back, but who knows.

We're back to the MC tomorrow evening. A sort of emergency meeting I suppose. It could come up there that I exposed on her side. I have been trying not to pull any punches on the rare case we're talking about it at all. I pulled no punches Monday night, making sure to tell her and the MC that unless I saw real, tangible action on WW's part, starting immediately, then I was prepared for divorce.

To her credit, WW agreed to meet again this week, cancelling plans with her so called best friend (and accomplice), and also asked for an appointment with a substance abuse counselor.

Of course, I'm seeing $$, but hey I'm used to getting drained at this point.

...funny thing is, I've made statements about how the rest of her family felt about the relationship she had with him as a teen, and that her parents actually thought it was cute/funny.

She claims that there's no way I could know that, but it doesn't occur to her that I may have talked to family and friends that remember that period. If she flat out asked me if I talked to anyone in her family besides her parents, I would tell her the truth.

After the session Monday night, she made the claim that no one in his family knew, and I told her that I should have told them. She said it wouldn't have made a difference, but it got me more fired up to do it. He should have to face some consequences and maybe if I do that, I can move past the urge to deliver consequences of a different nature to this POS.

Can you do MB coaching instead?

Have you read this?
Beware of Bad Counselors

Will read/listen now.

I'll be honest, MB coaching looks pretty cost prohibitive to me at this point, but I could use it as one of my stipulations in a Plan B letter.

I wonder if I could use my BCBS insurance with MB coaching/counseling. We only pay $35 per joint session.

It should also be said that despite what WW might think, we have not begun any real therapy/counseling yet. Its been a really long intake process. Most of the previous sessions quickly devolved into arguments between the two of us over trivial bull crap.

I told the MC that we've told enough of our story, I was ready for action. I have demanded that the MC lay out a framework for a recovery plan, which they are supposed to be doing.

It seems they wanted to address the drug dependency first, but we're supposed to get down to business tomorrow night.

I dont think MB Coaching accepts any insurance, but you can email them and ask.