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I would really like to get her back in the house. I did tell her I wanted them to come home. She wants to but she continues to tell me I must leave first, I told her I won't be leaving.
I know were not reconciling, I know its all fogbabble.
She did tell me how scared she felt today while having her break down.
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Tomorrow is a new day for a new marriage to be built. I will see what tomorrow offers me. I do have my IC tomorrow, cant wait to see how my psycologist reacts to my ordeal that happened, she has known everything I've been doing and supports it. She knew I was going to confront other man on tuesday, she knew what I was going to ask him, she liked my approach.
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Why does she want me to admit what I did was wrong in exposing this affair, she keeps saying how I told her parents.
She told me we could of worked on this on our own and not tell anyone our business. I asked her how would we of worked on this on our own and when, b/c I never got the memo about you wanting to work on it. FOGBABBLE
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Why does she want me to admit what I did was wrong in exposing this affair, she keeps saying how I told her parents. I would just say "I have no reason to hide your affair. I don't believe that is the right thing to do." Say that every time she brings it up and then change the subject. PLEASE stop saying you did it to save your marriage. The falling down drunk will NEVER accept that you took his booze away for his best interest. And the fogged out affairee will never accept that you exposed to save the marriage.
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Why does she want me to admit what I did was wrong in exposing this affair, she keeps saying how I told her parents. I would just say "I have no reason to hide your affair. I don't believe that is the right thing to do." Say that every time she brings it up and then change the subject. PLEASE stop saying you did it to save your marriage. The falling down drunk will NEVER accept that you took his booze away for his best interest. And the fogged out affairee will never accept that you exposed to save the marriage. I got it thanks, just tired and my mind goes blank. She sure does talk some fogbabble. I wonder if I should send her flowers to her work, if so what should the card read?
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I know, I am just thinking, I do have to call her back about the bills, I wondr if I should ask her what was troubling her so much that she blew my phone up? I suspect that she's wondering if she would get into any trouble over what happened to you, which in turn leads me to suspect that she had a larger role in that incident than she's portraying.
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Your wife has an ego bigger than Texas. (Sorry ML!)
She loves the attention you are giving her.
She loves the admiration the POSOM is giving her.
And she hates it that her reputation has been damaged by exposure.
Like a two year old, her id is in control and she has no regard for your feelings. It's all about her. Are you prepared to babysit if she comes back home? Maybe going to your sister's house for a few days will do you some good.
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Your wife has an ego bigger than Texas. (Sorry ML!)
She loves the attention you are giving her.
She loves the admiration the POSOM is giving her.
And she hates it that her reputation has been damaged by exposure.
Like a two year old, her id is in control and she has no regard for your feelings. It's all about her. Are you prepared to babysit if she comes back home? Maybe going to your sister's house for a few days will do you some good. What do you mean her id? Prepare to babysit when she comes home if she comes home? Just what do you think I should do?
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I know, I am just thinking, I do have to call her back about the bills, I wondr if I should ask her what was troubling her so much that she blew my phone up? I suspect that she's wondering if she would get into any trouble over what happened to you, which in turn leads me to suspect that she had a larger role in that incident than she's portraying. This is another thought? She sure seemed concerned about what my work said, I didn't give to much information about it.
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I got it thanks, just tired and my mind goes blank. She sure does talk some fogbabble. I wonder if I should send her flowers to her work, if so what should the card read? nooooooooooooooooooo, don't do that!! That is overkill.
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Just what do you think I should do? I think you need to email Dr. Harley AND consult with an attorney immediately. Moving into your sisters for a few days, until you have legal protection should take priority over Plan A at this time. You have to protect yourself legally.
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I got it thanks, just tired and my mind goes blank. She sure does talk some fogbabble. I wonder if I should send her flowers to her work, if so what should the card read? nooooooooooooooooooo, don't do that!! That is overkill. I won't send her flowers. thats why I ask first.
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Just delete it and go have some PIE!  This is pretty much the cliffnotes of the entire plan. Your flirty Plan A approach seems very effective.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Just delete it and go have some PIE! This is pretty much the cliffnotes of the entire plan. Your flirty Plan A approach seems very effective. Its hard to be flirty with her when she's not in the house. I guess I could send her some flirty text.
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Just what do you think I should do? I think you need to email Dr. Harley AND consult with an attorney immediately. Moving into your sisters for a few days, until you have legal protection should take priority over Plan A at this time. You have to protect yourself legally. Today I'm going to talk to an attorney about this injust incarceration in the hosp. My wife has not come back home she is still at her GF. I'm not going anywhere for now.
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Your wife has an ego bigger than Texas. (Sorry ML!)
She loves the attention you are giving her.
She loves the admiration the POSOM is giving her.
And she hates it that her reputation has been damaged by exposure.
Like a two year old, her id is in control and she has no regard for your feelings. It's all about her. Are you prepared to babysit if she comes back home? Maybe going to your sister's house for a few days will do you some good. You know whats funny is my wife never had an ego and now she is like a child having a temper tantrum. Its funny how I'm out of the mental hosp and all she says now is, I never thought that was right. She seems like she might be on the verge of having her own mental break down.
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All waywards are all ego. That's typical.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
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All waywards are all ego. That's typical. Its like I don't even know her anymore, I notice when we were driving from the hospital, every little thing seem to want to set her off, like where the hosp was located, how people were walking slow in the parking lot, all these little things that mean nothing seem to bother her. She never use to be that way.
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I know this isnt a marathon. Yesterday my wife kept saying to me, I don't know what is going on with you, she said this a few times to me. I don't raise my voice, I'm calm all the time when we talk or when I'm by her, just babble I guess.
Does anyone notice when I pull from her she comes running at me. When I answer her she then seems to pull back.
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It blows my mind when she tells me if I would of just kept my mouth shut and all my changes I was doing would of been enough to save our marriage. Interesting, when was she going to let me know this. I'm being sarcastic right now. If I would of never exposed, I would be divorced and she would have new boyfriend and all would be dandy for her. I'm just venting.
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