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Yes that will make him feel like a hunted man and there's no way she will enjoy a single more moment of the A if she feels so many eyes on her. WD you are a natural!

I like the idea of saying it in front of SS. I take it she's continued to hover over him in your presence? If that's so, then he still doesn't know - regardless of her claim that he disapproves of exposure.

He's the one person she can't afford to have know. If everyone else disapproves she and OM can run off to la-la land - but she'd have to bring her son. She already knows how reluctant he's been to accept even a stand up stepfather. What chance would she have with an affair partner?

I wonder whether you can expose via his dad. What happened in their marriage and is there a relationship there?




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You guys are wicked, deceitful barbarians. I love it.

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Originally Posted by Justthe3ofus
You guys are wicked, deceitful barbarians. I love it.

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Encouraging this poster to lie and deceive his wife while snooping is not MB advice as well as other suggestions.

Best of luck WD. I'm out.


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Originally Posted by 20YearHistory
Encouraging this poster to lie and deceive his wife while snooping is not MB advice as well as other suggestions.

Best of luck WD. I'm out.

So you're saying not to use any of this information?

I know everyone else seems to use it to help kill the affair?


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Is it lying or is it using a tactic to kill the affair, this is war right?


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20year why do you not like this approach. I do want to kill this affair.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Is it lying or is it using a tactic to kill the affair, this is war right?

It is a TACTIC to bust up the affair. The policy of radical honesty DOES NOT apply to affairs or abuse.

WD, Dr Harley advocates snooping for the very purpose of busting up the affair, so carry on and kill this affair!!


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I thought about making a fake email and then sending me this concern from a concerned neighbor.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
I thought about making a fake email and then sending me this concern from a concerned neighbor.

I wouldn't go to that length. You can just insinuate that people are watching and you are getting reports. Then refuse to reveal your sources. ["I have to protect my source"] The goal is to get word back to the OM and scare the heck out of him.


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I will have to do it by phone, she still at the GF, I hope she comes home this weekend. Like I said earlier I havent heard much from her today. Now yesterday she was talking all the way till she went to bed. just an observation.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
I will have to do it by phone, she still at the GF, I hope she comes home this weekend. Like I said earlier I havent heard much from her today. Now yesterday she was talking all the way till she went to bed. just an observation.

Why not send her a TEXT that she can READ to the OM? grin


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Is it lying or is it using a tactic to kill the affair, this is war right?
Absolutely!!! And this is exactly what Dr. Harley advises.


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how should we word this text??


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I have 4/2/14 1 hour in the morning at OM house, 4/4/14 same thing, 4/4/14 she spent the night at his house from 7:00pm to about 9:30 am


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"Sally, very hurt and disappointed to learn that your affair has never ended. According to reliable sources you have been going to the OM's house after you drop SS at school and spent the night there on Friday night. Other reports show you still going by his pharmacy. When will this ever end?"

When was the last time she was there?


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according to the GPS key logger monday april 7 for about 5 mins, I the batter died around 1pm, so I dont know about tuesday. wednesday she was with me. why what are you thinking?


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
according to the GPS key logger monday april 7 for about 5 mins, I the batter died around 1pm, so I dont know about tuesday. wednesday she was with me. why what are you thinking?

What does your GPS show for today?


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live one shows, she just left work and went to GF house. tonight was her late night, she worked til 8pm, and she has SS, his dad drops him off at her work.

I'm sure she will be pissed when I text her that.

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I think its perfect that you are giving her this information several days later because that will throw her off of your methods.


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