she said all of this has been forwarded thank you have a nice night.

"you too. love, WD "

she just asked me what neighbor seen her at the pharmacy?

I'm sure I hit a nerve. She is still in the fog, how do they ever think they are going to come out in the open with this affair. It will just validate to everyone that they are the sick and twisted people who got man thrown in a mental hospital because of there wrong doings, because they don't want to look bad, what is wrong with this picture.

I'll bet she is on the phone with OM trying to figure this all out. Does it normally go like this, what am I thinking it does. I got HNHN book today, I had to order LB and Surviving an Affair.

"Your affair has caused me enormous pain and I am asking you to stop."

Love, WD

lets define stalking, here it means 2 or more unwanted contacts. Lets see, I havent been by OM except when I confronted him. so how would I be stalking OM, when wife was the one going to OM house and bussiness. someone BLOW a FOG HORN and Knock her out of the FOG.

I sent it, thanks. Do they really think they are going have a happy relationship or something.

They are sweating it out right now.

I just got this text "I wont be talking to him or you. Leave me the F alone! you win...you crazy male dog". obviously it was the other word. so her she sends me clear evidence that she is having an affair.

Waywards are SO stupid. They don't actually think, at all. They just act and react.

You, on the other hand, are doing great.

AM

WD
If you want to track her every move, then by all means that is what you should do.

There are alternatives to getting info as to what she has been up to and calling her out on it without directly lying to her.

There is no silver bullet.

you have exposed. You have done a great job letting other's know what is going on.

You are doing a great plan a of just trying to be cool with her and not doing all the things that made her grow away from you.

You have no control over her. There is no blowing her out of the fog with a single blow. This thing is going to take time. Her relationship with this other guy was an escape from you.

She wasn't happy with you for a long time. She didn't fall out of love with you over night.

You are doing exactly what you need to do to win her back.

If you obsess over her every move it is going to consume you. There isn't a 'strategic move' to make every second of every day.

I won my W back by just being the guy that she fell in love with and showing her that I was serious about have a great marriage with her by changing back into that guy she met + massive improvements.

If you can just calm down and slow the pace, you are going to be fine.

Back off. Just let the jets cool for a few days. Just give her some space and let her come to you at this point.

Who cares that she sent that text. She will feel totally different tomorrow. Blow it off.

Her mood is changing every 5 minutes. Just be cool with it.

I have said this multiple times. Do not get sucked into her drama. Ok?

Why do I feel bad for her, why, why do I have a heart and a conscience. why do I feel her pain right now.

This is great. You have effectively caused conflict in the affair and put them on notice that their movements are being watched. It will be harder for them to conduct the affair.

Great job!!

It is hard to watch someone you love in deep conflict in their addiction. You are a good guy who really cares.

Because you have empathy. Waywards are SO self-centered that they have little or no empathy, only their own selfishness. Think about crack addicts that you have encountered at work. One of the most amazing things to me was the similarity between wayward and addict behavior. The comparison is striking.

AM

And more importantly, you have sucker punched the OM without directly contacting him. Everything you said to her will be reported back to him. He will be second guessing his affair with your wife and asking if it's worth all this trouble.