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If only one spouse is currently working to adhere to Marriage Builders program is it futile?
If one spouse has a sub-zero love bank and doubt, can you really reach him if you are limited in how often you can see each other due to opposing schedules?
This is only my second post, I read the rules and I hope I am doing this right.
Together Since 2003
Married Since 2004
No Children
Empty love bank (him), reluctant to try.
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Joined: Mar 2014
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I wish their was any chance of growing closer with out spending time together but their isn't. If he is not willing to work on it maybe you can adjust you work schedule to spend more time with him.
You should only do that if he believe it will make deposits in his bank and it won't withdraw from your bank. I think you should consider a temporary separation to stop the withdrawal and give you a chance to focus but I would send a much longer email to Dr. H at Mbradio@marriagebuilders.com.
Me 40M
Wife 43F
3 kids 9M, 5M, 1F
Together 15 yrs, Married 10 yrs, live together most of our dating life. Did not live together our year of our engagement. Working hard to fall more in love with my wife.
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You should stick to just One Thread Topic so it's easier to check out the background to the situation.
Firstly, you never mentioned if, or for how long the two of you have been married.
Please answer that question.
Next, am i reading your story correctly? You have been "Together" in a relationship for 10 years and have Never lived together!!!
How can you change that situation, presuming that at some point the two of you actually did exchange Wedding Vows?
How far apart do you live from each other?
How often do you see each other and spend Undivided Attention time together?
Have you exposed the affair he was involved in, which i too sense is still ongoing, Because it hasn't been exposed.
Answer these and copy/paste the Q & A's in your original thread topic please.
LTL
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