Yes, yes, yes. No lovebusting. So do I still seem sad that he is wanting this break and when he keeps saying that he just wants to come take this break but waltz in and take care of the kids every weekend but stay in a hotel at night (which will not happen in my plan B proposal do I agree, or just say "I don't know?"

No relationship talk. Just keep acting like "we will figure it all out" and then change the subject.

Don't act sad or moody.

Make the house clean and inevitable.

Remember this may be the last weekend you have before you go into Plan B so make it good memories of you.

Here, read this and come back with your questions.

Plan A

Read it and get it. Thank you.
Question-
When I was in stupid plan C I wanted he and I to take this "break" with him still coming home and sleeping on couch. He wanted to sneak in and the morning and wake the kids and be with them and them and bathe them and put them to bed then go to a hotel. He said it was too hard emotionally for him to be in the house with me, blah blah and he needs distance from me because he does indeed love me and this is "soooo" tough. (he had already booked the hotel because I f'd up and told him I wanted to separate then took it back saying I wanted him home. (I know, I know). But, he did agree to spend next weekend (it's a long 3 day weekend) in the home the whole time and see "if he can handle it. and how it goes."

Because we aren't spending that much time together this weekend with him in a hotel for the evening- I am thinking I'd like to tell the PI to not reveal to me his "findings" until Tuesday because I really don't think I can keep it in and do a true no Lovebusters "Plan A" learning of more infidelity. I think one other solid, good Plan A next weekend would be helpful. And then, if I find that he's still cheating, I would implement Plan B via email when he's in Utah on Tuesday. Does that sound ok?

*And I still need to get my car lease extended and my house lease extended. I don't want to blow up and prevent him from doing that. We were on our way to take care of car this weekend but we were told we have to do it over the phone on Monday. House Lease needs to be taken care of by the 31st and hasn't been done yet. :-/ I don't want him to get so mad at my exposure and Plan B that he doesn't do that.

Just more info- This weekend he was 90% talking about moving forward with getting a separation and moving forward with the divorce and then here and there would tear up and say "I'm so so sorry for what I've done." "Let's see how next weekend goes, maybe this will blow over."

Thank you.

So he isn't home this weekend? Is he still in Utah this weekend?

No, he is "home" but doing what HE wanted- coming in before the kids wake up spending time in the kids during the day, putting them to bed, then going to a hotel to sleep at night.

Okay, but you can put on your best Plan A this weekend and then when the PI gets the goods he will be out of town.

So get the leases extended and Plan A. That's your plan this weekend.

Can you have breakfast made when he comes in tomorrow?

I meant clean and "welcoming" to him.

Needing strength to continue my Plan A. Saw something on FB with the co-worker that he claims up and down is just an friendship. The weekend we had agreed to take a break (before I realized I was doing stupid plan C), she posted her FB status as, "Planning for my future :)" (on a flight to Spokane Washington- which my WS was on with her.)
ARrrggghhhhh!!! Not concrete proof of course but that status is really screaming out to me... Need to bite my tongue hard. Thank you for letting me get it out here.

Question- he is extending the lease of the place we are currently in. (it runs out end of the month.) But right now it is in HIS name. Would like him to put my name on it.... But as long as his name is on it he will be able to get keys to get in (even if I change the locks) and check our mail, etc, etc. I don't know how to remedy this.

What does he say when you ask him to extend it in your name? Also, if it's in your name now why can't you call and extend it?

Also, do you have a friend who can check her Facebook for you? Just until you get the evidence from the PI?

Be sure and copy and paste all her contacts into a word doc for safekeeping before she shuts the page down.

Do you mean to tell me he travels WITH this coworker on business trips?

x2.

Just to reiterate: Do NOT mention anything having to do with this OW to your WH! You will be tempted but you must resist...

Right now I can check FB but don't know how long that will last.

Yes, the whole "team" travels together and she is on that team.
Will do about the FB contacts.

The perfect set up for an affair.

Dammit!!!!! It's too late The facebook page is down. Dammit. Will get my friend to check for me.

I believe she took her whole page down. Don't know how else I can expose to her side.

I really screwed up... letting my emotions ge the best of me because it hurts so bad. I'm trying so hard to keep it under wraps... Before getting into Plan A I really harped on him about her... he knows I'm suspicious. All I have left is the PI. Hopefully that will be something- but I have no way to expose her side now.

She probably just blocked you. Can your friend see her page?