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Originally Posted by itshardtotrust
I request you all to believe me...this is a real story...I am just blank now...because its related to two people who are close to my heart...I am unable to decide anything...I DO NOT HAVE THAT TIME TO CREATE A STORY TO WASTE MY TIME AND YOUR TIME...

thank you all for your advice's and supportive words...I thought I will get some comfort by sharing it here..but I can see that my pain has only increased seeing most of your replies...

I do not have any STD or STIs...neither do they have...Its all our fate thats playing games with us...we are the players in it...

Satan is trying to ruin our relations...thats why all this is happening...

Thank you all once again...Take care...God shall take care of everything in my life...

BYE

My point was to make you see the plain truth - that this story is false.

The story your mother told you about being a chaperone and having accidental sex CAN'T be true. And she definitely cannot carry on sleeping with him! You KNOW this.

You must become CALM and logical - and make them STOP.

If you are struggling to think clearly and make decisions then see your doctor for short term anti depressants. Many betrayed people (including me) need this.

No one here underestimates your pain. It is truly horrific for you to undergo this double betrayal.

But LOGICALLY you cannot give into your pain yet. You cannot simply keep their secret. You cannot come here looking for 'comfort' while this betrayal is ongoing.

What magic pill of comfort can WE give you - while it is still going on? We can't bandage you while you are still being knifed.

Stop being their secret keeper and tell your poor lied-to father the truth. Do it gently. But do not allow the lies to him to continue by keeping evil secrets.

Then you and your father should kick this man out and deal with your mother.

There can be no 'comfort', no release from pain until this is done.

It will get worse and worse until is done.

Good luck and god bless.


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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Evil will only win if you let it.

If you expose the horror and refuse to be victimized by your mom and the guy you were to marry......

evil won't have a chance.

It is ugly to deal with though.......not a doubt about that.







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God shall take care of everything in my life...

BYE
So you're religious?
Have you spoken to a pastor or religious leader about this situation?
-opt


Me: 43 y.o. BFWH, D-day 11/11/09 (NC since 9/01)
Divorce from WW final 9/16/10.
Current Status: MB-based Marriage to Nature Girl 12/8/12 (first date on 12/11/10)
Mine: S(16), D(11)
NatureGirls: S(23), D(21)
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There is nothing to salvage here but your self. Get yourself together prepare to support yourself and move out. Dump him asap, thank god that you did not marry him.

This is agod awful situation and I would careful tell my dad or At least elude to it, chances are he already knows.


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This thread has been dead for nearly a year, teb...

You must have gone back a few pages to find it and bump it.


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Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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