If you pursue this other man, you will come to regret it later

Yes I did and u are correct. Karma is a bad thing.

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Hi everyone, it has been a tough evening but I told the truth and I have cut off all communication with MM.Thanks again for your support. I feel as though a huge weight has been lifted.

Great news, Girl515!!! I commend you for the courage that took, and you KNOW it was the right thing to do!
How is your husband doing?

Did your husband help you cut off communication?

Are you and your H discussing how you can learn to affair proof the marriage together?

Girl, you had a pre-exisiting lovebank for this dirtbag so it was natural for him to have had an effect on you. Unfortunately these types of men know that and they use FB as their own personal little black book.

Dr H encourages married people to have a transparent lifestyle where all passwords are shared and there are no hidden ways to communicate with the opposite sex. He particularly bans contact with former lovers. He recommends joint couples FB pages, or no FB page, or high privacy settings with a carefully chosen friends list.

I'm sure you would much rather have not beeen targeted by this man, and such precautions would have avoided that.

Your H will probably be rather hurt by your revelation and will feel some very reasonable distrust - show him this thread and all FB messages if you have them to show transparency.

If he would like to post here we can advise you both how to affair-proof your marriage.

You did the right thing in telling your husband. I would suggest reading Dr. Harley's books so that you can have a great marriage. Start with His Needs, Her Needs.

Good luck.

Thanks. He is doing better than I thought. He is willing to forgive me and move forward.

No, my H didn't help me cut of communication but he did see what I sent M to cut it off.

Thanks. I will mention that to him and again I appreciate the input.

Something that Dr. Harley says frequently is that affairs are devastating...and common! That's why it's so important to live with Extraordinary Precautions for life. If both spouses did so, it would be very difficult to have an affair, thus avoiding one of the most painful experiences of life.

Be sure to read up on Extraordinary Precautions. They protect you and your husband from hurting each other with an affair.

Next would be making sure you are both meeting each others most important emotional needs and avoiding all love busters. Make sure you are spending 15 hours each week together meeting the ENs and having fun on a date - just the two of you.

You are smart to have ended all contact with this guy and lucky, I think, to have MB at this point in your marriage. If you were both to read Fall in Love, Stay in Love and follow it, you would create an even better marriage than you have now.

How awesome! I admire the fact that you are Putting your marriage and husband first.

Please, please, please make sure you change your email address and block his access to you as solid as possible. Never underestimate the possibility of him re contacting you in the future under the guise of something innocent like, "I just wanted to see how you've been?" Leave no chances! Then go grow your love with your husband!

Have you read these?

Extraordinary Precautions-Revised SAA
What is Just Compensation?

What precautions are you putting in place to prevent this from ever happening again?