Dear builders, just when I was about to pull the trigger and decided that I will no longer continue in this relationship why wife has agreed on work on our family. My decision came after last night she went off insulting me and saying that I am not the man of her life. That her lover was pissed and was going to sue me for invation of privacy and hat I have been a looser all this months trying to save something that was obviously not working. She pushed me, screamed and went crazy. She was excusing herself saying that she was not having sex with me at the same time she was with him. And that she told me several times she wants to be alone. She also said her lover told her I told him we were having sex. Basically I could tell her fury came from knowing ai destroyed her love affair.
She went really nuts and furious. My sun went upstairs and saw her faighing with me pulling my shirt and screaming at me. I can tell she acted like that because her lover broke up with her... I'm glad I've been reading how to survive an affair so I was expecting this and I am expecting a long period of withdrawal and depression from her. I convinced her to send he lover and nc letter and to give me her phone passcode. I am planning on installing the spyware on her phone cause I dont trully believe she will end communication 100%.
I also convinced her to expose her affair to her mother who lives with us that just got home from out of town.
I am planning on plan a her and expect up to 6 months of withdrawal and a bumpy road. I am extremely happy she decided o to all this but at the same time I am scared it will still not work out because I don't see her having what it takes and sacrificing and committing to work on her family.
Just wanted to give an update and hear any comments or sugestions.
Thanks all

Fight was last night then she cried during sleep time. Then today afternoon decided to work things out. But I'm not convinced. She didn't show much commitment. Is that normal?
I don't wanna act like I have the upper hand. I humbly accept I created the environment to make that affair happen.

Fight was last night then she cried during sleep time. Then today afternoon decided to work things out. But I'm not convinced. She didn't show much commitment. Is that normal?
I don't wanna act like I have the upper hand. I humbly accept I created the environment to make that affair happen.

I am ordering the book tomorrow.
Her mom came back. She told her what happened and she said I am not man enough for telling my kid, that it was a huge mistake. She also told her that we should separate cause regardless cause the relationship is too damaged.
So they are moving out to another place maybe in a couple of weeks and I will have to go separate ways.
I regret so much not having installed spyware on her phone...
I just took her phone now and asked her to give me the passcode and of course she refused. I feel like taking it from her hands when is unlocked and taking it to install the spyware but I feel that will make a scene and drive her even further away.