I recently let myself become inappropriate with another individual. I never crossed the final boundary, but the intent had been thought about after letting this person kiss me and not push him away until after the feeling became so intense, I just couldnt. Nonetheless, I was caught and my husband is so angry. I'm angry at myself, but I'm also angry with him as he finally admitted to sleeping with someone else about three years ago. He's walked out on me and my children recently and he came back home and we were working on the future. This innocent flirting with a coworker became much more dangerous, and I gave into temptation. I have no idea why, as just as my husband thought, I thought things were okay. I want to get past this, but I don't think my husband will ever forgive me. Please help someone....I'm lost and empty knowing I've made him feel the same pain I've felt.

Yes, you could.

There was NOTHING innocent about it.

You need to get Surviving an Affair, read it, and show it to your husband. Tell him that it is a plan to recover your marriage and ask him if he is willing.

Steps you need to take:

1. Send your OM a No Contact letter
2. Quit your job

I already quit my job, and I know I crossed a boundary. I hate myself for causing him this pain as I've never done it before and I know how it feels.

Was OM married? Who was the OW your H had an affair with? Was she married?

Have you sent OM a NC letter? Changed all your contact information?

Listen to the clips in here. What is Just Compensation?

Also read this.
Extraordinary Precautions-Revised SAA

The devastation of an affair is tough to overcome, but for those who follow Dr. Harley's program, there is not only success, but an improved marriage that is passionate and loving.

Since both of you made the same mistake (he took it farther), I would strongly suggest you both read Surviving an Affair together. Also read all the information on this site related to infidelity.

You have found the right place, and if both of you can get on board with the Marriage Builders program, your marriage will rise from the ash heap.

He says his was different because we were separated. I believe he left me to continue doing what I had already been told. It was supposed to be one of my good friends. She wanted him....period. now in my case, job has been quit, I deleted all contact information, as well as blocked OM from being able to contact me. OM is not married, nor did he care that I was as he said so himself. I love my husband. I can't imagine life without him

Does he know about MB?

Did you read the links I posted?

Did you write a NC Letter to OM and let your BH send it?

Have you answered ALL the questions he has?

Yes, yes, and no....he contacted OM on his own

Yes, yes, and no....he contacted the OM himself

What did you think of the just compensation clips?

Were either of your affairs exposed?

Have you told your children?