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I heard Dr. Harley say just the other day, that when you break up that you should date someone else immediately. Even if it's just to get out and have some fun.

Apparently when he was dating Joyce she would break up with him quite often. He would call up some other girl and say "you want go out and (fill in the blank, I.e. grab a quick bite, etc)". He said it's the best to keep going. Matter of fact, he said he would have someone in mind as his "placeholder".

What better way to get that contrast effect?


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I know a couple of nice ladies here in town that have expressed interest in dating me. Plus and old girlfriend contacted me a few months ago. I am not sure what to do on this. Dr. Harley may be right in that I just need to get out there and enjoy life.

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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I heard Dr. Harley say just the other day, that when you break up that you should date someone else immediately. Even if it's just to get out and have some fun.

Apparently when he was dating Joyce she would break up with him quite often. He would call up some other girl and say "you want go out and (fill in the blank, I.e. grab a quick bite, etc)". He said it's the best to keep going. Matter of fact, he said he would have someone in mind as his "placeholder".

What better way to get that contrast effect?

Can you please post this Radio Show?

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I heard Dr. Harley say just the other day, that when you break up that you should date someone else immediately. Even if it's just to get out and have some fun.

Apparently when he was dating Joyce she would break up with him quite often. He would call up some other girl and say "you want go out and (fill in the blank, I.e. grab a quick bite, etc)". He said it's the best to keep going. Matter of fact, he said he would have someone in mind as his "placeholder".

What better way to get that contrast effect?

Can you please post this Radio Show?
I'd be interested in hearing that show as well. I wonder if he feels the same about dating immediately after breaking up a dating relationship and dating immediately after divorce?

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Originally Posted by KeepLearning
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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I heard Dr. Harley say just the other day, that when you break up that you should date someone else immediately. Even if it's just to get out and have some fun.

Apparently when he was dating Joyce she would break up with him quite often. He would call up some other girl and say "you want go out and (fill in the blank, I.e. grab a quick bite, etc)". He said it's the best to keep going. Matter of fact, he said he would have someone in mind as his "placeholder".

What better way to get that contrast effect?

Can you please post this Radio Show?
I'd be interested in hearing that show as well. I wonder if he feels the same about dating immediately after breaking up a dating relationship and dating immediately after divorce?
Sorry guys, I can't find the show, but I will post it if I find it.


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I have heard him say that too, brainhurts, but I have no idea where the show would be.

I imagine he would say something similar about a post-divorce situation. He is very big on building a life that makes you happy. Being alone and dwelling on memories of a former lover does not make one happy. Getting out, dating, and having fun DOES. The best way to move on from the pain is not to dwell, but to replace it with something good and fun and enjoyable.


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I will like you to be yourself.Take time to think about ways you can better your life.One thing is surev that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.Read your bible and be happy,You will surely see someone who will love you the way you are.Thanks

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