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I struggle with giving people books but I'm always tempted. On the one hand it's nice on the other it's preachy when people aren't keen. I think if he's really a bit worried and was seeking advice then it is a very nice gift. I agree. Most unsolicited advice is self-serving so I am also very hesitant to distribute literature.
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I struggle with giving people books but I'm always tempted. On the one hand it's nice on the other it's preachy when people aren't keen. I think if he's really a bit worried and was seeking advice then it is a very nice gift. I agree. Most unsolicited advice is self-serving so I am also very hesitant to distribute literature. When there is a special event such as a pregnancy/birth or a wedding we don't hesitate to give a marriage builders book. Gifts at these times are at the very least easily accepted without the "preachy" feeling that can occur at other times. Giving a book to new parents about parenting and marriage, or a book to newlyweds on marriages, is a great idea.
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I struggle with giving people books but I'm always tempted. On the one hand it's nice on the other it's preachy when people aren't keen. I think if he's really a bit worried and was seeking advice then it is a very nice gift. I agree. Most unsolicited advice is self-serving so I am also very hesitant to distribute literature. If it's unsolicited advice then it's better not to send him anything.
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Question: While doing laundry today, I found a pair of DD10 underwear with a maxi-pad on it.
I don't think she has started her period yet and I was surprised to find it.
I havent said anything to her...What would be the best way to approach this?
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Question: While doing laundry today, I found a pair of DD10 underwear with a maxi-pad on it.
I don't think she has started her period yet and I was surprised to find it.
I havent said anything to her...What would be the best way to approach this? Does she have a favorite aunt?
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Some kids are starting as young as 9 nowadays, so it would be great to have a short talk with her, that as her body is changing she may need pads. I gave my DD13 another package of pads to bring to her father's house, but it's a simple thing to find the kids' ones at the grocery store, and then tell her where to find it under the bathroom sink. At those ages one package can last a year, but let her know to tell you when she runs low. And because laundry day is not when you want to find this stuff  let her know to wrap it really well with toilet paper and put it in the bathroom garbage.
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Question: While doing laundry today, I found a pair of DD10 underwear with a maxi-pad on it.
I don't think she has started her period yet and I was surprised to find it.
I havent said anything to her...What would be the best way to approach this? Does she have a favorite aunt? No, she is not close with any relatives. I was hoping SIL would try to be close to her but she really hasn't
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I would just ask her
"DD, have you started menstruating yet?"
If she seems embarassed or not, let her know you found a maxi pad and were curious about it. Tell her you are there for her as she is growing up.
Open communication should pertain to this, as other things in life.
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I would just ask her
"DD, have you started menstruating yet?"
If she seems embarassed or not, let her know you found a maxi pad and were curious about it. Tell her you are there for her as she is growing up.
Open communication should pertain to this, as other things in life. I spoke with her tonight. She told me that she has not started her period and did not use the pad. She said DD7 used the pad; she said that while they were last at ww apartment for overnight weekend, ww did not have any underwear for DD7 to wear and gave her a pad and had her use that on the underwear she wore there... DD10 did tell me that she has started to grow breasts
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Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
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I ran a 5k last weekend and was 5th place, and ran a 15k last night and was 3rd place in my age group (30-39 male)!
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Great news on the run. When is your next one?
Me: FWW/BW - 38 yrs
XH: FBH/WH - 41 yrs
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DD: 20yrs old
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Great news on the run. When is your next one? In a couple weeks, when my kids are next with their mom for the weekend. I plan on running a 5k race Friday evening, and another 5k race Saturday morning
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Me: FWW/BW - 38 yrs
XH: FBH/WH - 41 yrs
Plan B
DS: 9yrs old (with H)
DD: 20yrs old
Divorced Dec 2014
WXH still living with POSOW
Actions mean EVERYTHING.
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I have a question about internet safety for children.
My ex wife created a Google Plus page for our 3 children and has posted dozens of pictures of events that they participate in.
I don't like their pictures online because strangers don't need to see them. I mail pictures to relatives and friends.
Any thoughts on this?
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Most people I know restrict how much of their children are posted on the internet to some extent. Unfortunately in a divorced situation there's not a lot of control over what the ex-spouse does. 
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Do they have the passwords? Would they be able to go into it to restrict the world from seeing these pictures to just friends and family?
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Jedi, that would be tough to address with no contact. Do you have anyone that serves in an IM type role that could reason through this with her, like maybe your parents or something? I'm not in NC, but my mom is really great about talking though concerns about her grandbabies with my ex. He is much more open to her input than he is to mine.
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Jedi, that would be tough to address with no contact. Do you have anyone that serves in an IM type role that could reason through this with her, like maybe your parents or something? I'm not in NC, but my mom is really great about talking though concerns about her grandbabies with my ex. He is much more open to her input than he is to mine. I don't think she is receptive to reason; she lives in the fog
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