Tell me what I theoretically would do and how I'd do it then what would that result be specifically. Not 'you get sex'. Tell me what it's really like.
Here is what I see happening. I spend a night totally 100% focused on her needs. I make sure she feels all the things I am being told she needs to feel for sex(assume I got it right). At the end of that, I am not supposed to expect sex. If it's been weeks, tough crud for me... all that matters is her needs. Then when we have sex, it's really terrible sex. The more my wife gets her needs met, the more she thinks I only like what she likes. Honestly, if you told me I can have ultra sensual sex or no sex, I'd pick no sex unless there were 50% of the times where I was the focus just like I did for her in the above scenario.
See sex is very important to me and it is in my top three needs.
When I hear you talking about how you want her to see it as 'just sex' and 'athletic' - my heart just aches with pity for the boring sex your poor wife is receiving.
A female body is capable of so much more pleasure than a mans. Actually it is more her brains and emotions. If she is subjected to dull sex, where it never gets above being about the body, she is going to be like a bright kid in the dummy class. Turned off.
Her sexual being is capable of hitting great heights multiple times. She is a ferrari to your pedestrian attitude towards sex.
Honestly you are talking about porno level sex. Two blank eyed idiots rutting away with no idea of what real pleasure is.
A woman's motor is so much more advanced. She needs a pilot who understands a warm up period is required. How to guide her towards heaven. How she needs to come back to earth in the arms of a man who loves her (and who was able to travel along side her!).
Women who swing. Frankly they are idiots. They know how to please men and ooh and ahh but they've never even gone past ten miles an hour in their own mind.
I know these women. Some of them do this silly thing in mongomous relationships. They talk endlessly about lingerie and technique like sex is some kind of job they want to be good at.
One woman I know is developing her first sexual aversion. She gets bored during sex and her mind drifts off. But she is too scared to do things the proper way. To insist she is sexually cared for as a woman should be.
Sad. Boring. Not for me.
An athletic gym class with no pants? I'd just call a divorce lawyer and find a man who knows what's what.
Porno users and swingers need NOT apply.