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Why do they want to be our friends? They go to such lengths to try and keep us around but don't want us. Recently I was thinking back and every time he would test the waters, flirt a bit.. then turn around and say I misunderstood he just wants to be friends. I read it here all the time too. What is the point? They hate us. We made them do this. It's all our fault. Why can't they just leave us alone? Why must they continue the torment by wanting to be just friends? And why do they not even get it? They truly seem to believe it's not torturous to us and it's all good and we're all happy this way. Why? Like where is it I am lost? I am in no contact. Life is much easier.. but looking back.. what is the point they want to make?
BW: Me, 42
WH: Him, 41
ILYBNILWY: Sept 2011, he moved out
DDay1: Dec 2011, ongoing since at least April 2011 if not longer
WH moves back we try FR 1/12
DDay2: Feb 2012
DDay3: April 2012, WH moves back out to "find himself"
Many attempts at FR, he can't make a decision
5/2013: WH states he wants a Divorce. POSOW is insisting.
8/2013: He files for D. She got hers, where's his?
Current: nothing is progressing, we do not speak
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Your post is hard to understand. Who is "they?" Who is "he?" Your ex-husband?
You probably need to go to a dark Plan B. I would also suggest installing the app and becoming a regular listener of the Marriage Builders Radio show so you can learn to use the tools here to protect yourself from this heartache.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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What is triggering you to be thinking about this? What is good in your life each day? What do you have to look forward to?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Get rid of everything you have that is reminding you of him. Get rid of pictures and mementos. Don't go looking him up online. Move somewhere new.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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