For all of you who know me this story will be interesting. For those of you who are new to this board I'll kind of skim over my story. Here it goes, my H last summer began an internet affair with a woman from NY state. (We are from Minnesota) He wasn't on line looking for an affair he just liked to meet people playing backgammon. The OW and her children began telling him about their life and just how terrible it was. He got totally sucked in by it, and pretty soon they were e-mailing eachother and calling eachother on the phone. My H took a vacation in July to go out to see her and to see if what they were telling him was true. You might ask where I was during all of this. I was working the 3-11 shift and except for my kids telling me dad was on the computer all of the time I really didn't know what was going on. When he left on his vacation I knew what he was up to even though I never confronted him. By that time I had figured it all out but decided that if that is what he wanted I'd let him do it and see what happened when he came back.<BR>When he came back I found pictures of 8 kids in his wallet and than I confronted him about it. He admitted to the affair and told me about how abused they all were and what a monster this womans H was ect. We talked and talked that day and next few. He was really confused but had pretty much decided when he left NY that he was going to stay with me. A few days later he got a phone call from her saying she was on her way to MN with three of her 8 kids. what could he say so he set her and her kids up in a hotel and after a few days of him going to see her I had enough so I told him to go. This went on for 1 month. In that month she had talked him into renting a house for them ect. All the while he was being told about the horrible abuse they had all suffered at the hands of her husband. At the begining of the second month H asked me if he could come back home. He also told me that OW daughter wanted to come live here also. I thought that was really weird but I was ready to work on our marriage and I said ok. We did agree that he wait at least another month so he was sure of what he wanted. So at the end of the month both he and ow daughter moved home. OW was not going to give up that easy. she started using her daughter to get to H. She even went so far as to sign legal papers so that daughter could stay here. It was about then that daughter started to tell us what it was like living with her Mom. She started telling us thaqt it wasn't her stepdad that was abusive it was her mom. She would have nothing to do with her, refused to see her ect. H confronted OW about these aligations which of course she claimed were all lies. So we did some invesigating. We found Daughters real Dad and of course everything that OW had told my H about him was all a lie. She had kept him from his girls for 13 years and was so happy to find Daughter. We then contacted OW current supposedly abusive spouse. He is a very, very nice man and everything she said he did to her was a lie. We talked to her other kids and they said all of the same things that ow daughter had told us. We also found out she is very much in debt in the tune of at least 15,000 and has numerouse warrants for her arrest in NY.<BR>We also found out that when she met her now H she showed up at his door with her 5 kids at the time because she had gotten kicked out of her apt. 2 weeks later they were married because he was lonely and she pushed it. <BR>She and my H had an argument on the phone regarding the house he leased for her. She finally got it through her head that the relationship was over and became very angry wanting her daughter back. Of course we were not going to let her go back to an abusive mother so we got child protection services involved. Little did she know that we had been in contact with all of these people and we knew the truth. So with H testimony on things he witnessed, daughters testimony and both ex husbands, the county had enough to take to the district attorney for a hearing of child protection. She came to get Daughter from school last week but we were prepared for her. The principle knew to call the police chief who had numerouse times had interviewed daughter and knew that at 14 she didn't want to go with her mom. So child protection and the police detained her while daughter was taken out of the school. Needless to say it was quite a scene.<P>So what did her con get her? She now has nothing. Her H has custody of the three small children she left when she headed for here. He will this week be out to get the baby she took with her, as he will get granted full custody of him this week. Her two oldest daughters in NY will have nothing to do with her. The daughter she has here has expressed she wants to live with us forever and that's fine we love her. So out of 8 kids she has one left with her. A 15 year old girl who herself has alot of problems and depending on the results of the court hearing next week will probably removed from her home also. She has no job as she doesn't want to work. My H is giving up the lease on the house so she will have no place to live. All her furniture is mine and I plan on getting it back. She has a federal court case pending for contempt of court and maybe kidnapping as she wasn't suppose to leave the state of NY with the baby. <BR>I guess if revenge is what I wanted I got it. It's just to bad so many had to suffer.<BR> <BR>These were very expensive lessons. With money he gave her, lawyer fees ect we are at 6,000.00 and the lawyer isn't done yet.<BR>I guess the moral of this long story is to never trust anyone on the internet!<BR>You never know who is telling you the truth. <BR>We live in fear everyday, OW has threatened my H life, and threatened to take my kids ect. So all of you please, if you feel your spouse is having an internet affair, please confront them. Don't let all of this happen to you.<P>Jill<P>p.s. Even with all of this going on here things with my H and me are great. We learned alot about ourselves and just how much we do love eachother. We together are working on what went wrong and are committed to never letting eachother feel unneeded or unloved again.<BR>p.s.s anyone think this could be a tv movie<BR>anybody good writers? lol<p>[This message has been edited by crazy or what? (edited November 08, 1999).]

Jill, you need to sell the story to someone that way you could get back the money you have lost. You are a very strong woman to put up with eveything you did and to take in her child. You are a very special person, hope your H tells you that very often.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Hey, Jill. I'm so glad that things are still going well. And very glad that those children are not off to good and loving (and sane) homes. I'll e-mail you later.<P>Keep it up, Girl!<P>Lori

This is a hope story I needed to read tonight! Y E S!!!!<P>This is wonderful! You should sell the story. <P>Dazed???? You got any connnections???<P>YEAH!

wow...we all knew she was bad news (re read some of your old posts..i remember some distinctly)...im glad all the kids are headed to somewhere better off, and think it is wonderful that you took in that one girl.<BR>you are her angel!<BR>good story.

Thanks guys!<P>I wish I could really do this story justice in writing because to live it is quite interesting.<BR>I'll let you all know the outcome of the court hearing on Mon. We need all of your prayers that the justice system won't give D back to her Mom.<P>Jill