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I just wanted them to see such a classic in full cinema.
It really is different than watching it on DVD.
I read the Oz books to them at night, currently reading Rinkitink of Oz.

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I tak err my son about once a month to a late Sunday afternoon Matinee movie at a thriftier movie theater. Along with 1 popcorn and 1 soda pop, which each get free refills and it costs $20.00 total for the two of us.

Check out other basic theaters in the area.

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Well, I'm really excited about this new year! I just filled out the Calendar for the next 3 months and the kids and I are busy every day!
My 12 year old boy is in boy scouts, 10 and 8 year old daughters are in girl scouts and they all start music lessons this week.
The weekends they have with me will be in Church on Sundays and events at National Parks on Saturdays. Roller skating twice a month...
and I have a couple small races and a larger one coming up.

It's so nice to fill out that calendar and not be troubled with ex wife drama. I enjoy watching the Gary Coxe videos on Youtube and he encourages people to not allow others to "rent space in your head."
If it wasn't for Plan B, I don't think I would be as happy as I am now.

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That's so awesome Jedi, I love seeing your life continue to get better and better smile Maybe I'll get somewhere with that contagious enthusiasm smile


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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Well, I'm really excited about this new year! I just filled out the Calendar for the next 3 months and the kids and I are busy every day!
My 12 year old boy is in boy scouts, 10 and 8 year old daughters are in girl scouts and they all start music lessons this week.
The weekends they have with me will be in Church on Sundays and events at National Parks on Saturdays. Roller skating twice a month...
and I have a couple small races and a larger one coming up.

It's so nice to fill out that calendar and not be troubled with ex wife drama. I enjoy watching the Gary Coxe videos on Youtube and he encourages people to not allow others to "rent space in your head."
If it wasn't for Plan B, I don't think I would be as happy as I am now.

I only have one child and he will be turning 12 in about 3 weeks and I strongly advocate for the Scouting activities.

This past weekend, we went camping with his Scout Troop and spent the weekend camping inside of a cave and the kids did all sorts of exploring, crawling through cave crevices and discovering hidden rooms.

It keeps us busy and usually not too bad on the budget, with this current expedition being one of the higher priced exceptions.

If you ever sense any self esteem issues, I also would highly recommend signing up for a form of Martial Arts. We are nearing his 3rd anniversary of 2-3 times per week practice sessions and twice per year tournaments for Sparring and Forms competitions. He is extremely proud of any trophy he has earned, which are for 1st through 3rd place.

Do you have your kids enrolled in any extracurricular school activities? My son enjoys Choir and Orchestra and really likes a variety of music due to the additional exposure to our classic genre along with true classical compositions.

As long as he continues this path, it is rare that I have to seek out any further options and along with Church and Catechism Class, I think he is being emotionally and Spiritually fulfilled.

You are definitely doing a great job and have your hands full with one boy and two younger sisters. Congratulations!!!

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Well I missed the Super bowl because my ex wife didn't return the kids on time and made me drive nearly 4 hours for no reason...
I wanted to watch it with my kids and she ruined that.

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How awful! How did that happen?


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I bet the kids were disappointed too.


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Wow, I'm sorry your Ex is like that.


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It happened because she lives 1.5 hours away and I drove out there to pick them up in the appointed location, waited 30 minutes then left.
When I arrived home, my daughter called me and said that I could pick them up in town. She said ex ww "forgot" about the time and location.

This is regular behavior from her. There is no consistency at all.

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
There is no consistency at all.

Then I would consistently report her missed drop-offs to the authorities at the time that they happen.

Doing otherwise may make it look as though the behavior is acceptable to you.


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Haven't seen you online for ages Jedi. How are all the activities with your girls going?



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Originally Posted by rocksolid
Haven't seen you online for ages Jedi. How are all the activities with your girls going?

They are going well.
I've been very busy with work, parenting and college.
And now gardening. The girls and I planted tomatoes and peppers and are happy to see those growing now.
They have been busy in Girl Scouts, playing outside as the weather warms, and piano lessons.
We will not go on a vacation like we did last year (to Disneyland) but will instead do a lot of camping and fishing this summer at various state and federal parks.


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It's very satisfying growing your own fruit and vegetables and eating what you've grown!

I think camping are the best holidays you can do with your kids. You can create so many happy memories and so great being in the outdoors.

I'm so happy your life is so fulfilling and busy.



Me: FWW/BW - 38 yrs
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Well I've been swamped with work; college; parenting...growing a garden and life.
I have spinach starting to grow in the garden (about 20 square feet).
I also planted a half dozen lavender plants the other day and turned a piece of hard driveway/ compacted clay into a raised lavender bed. (Raised with mulch). I will try to get some pics posted for anyone interested.

I ran a half marathon race Sunday and was a little sore, I have a large blister o my foot...and my time was 10 minutes too long...

But otherwise everything is well. Kids are doing well in Scouting and music lessons.

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Would love to see the garden pics Jedi.



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I have been committing disrespectful judgements and am a little disappointed in myself.
However, I feel that when I ask him to stop doing something that offends me and he keeps doing it...then he deserves to be treated disrespectfully.
Is that a bad attitude to have?

I recently planted several garden beds and need help controlling any rodents that may try to move into the beds. In my opinion, that is what a cat should do. But he has no interest in that. Instead, he wants to be in the house all day long. I lose patience with him when I see him laying around sometimes and call him names and tell him he is a welfare bum that refuses to work. I've told him the purpose of his life is to catch mice but he acts as though my purpose in life is to serve him.

I feel he's love busting me and making me have disrespectful judgements towards him. What do you think I should do?

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Personally, I think some things just cry out for disrespectful judgements ....


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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
I lose patience with him when I see him laying around sometimes and call him names and tell him he is a welfare bum that refuses to work. I've told him the purpose of his life is to catch mice but he acts as though my purpose in life is to serve him.


I think you are being far too soft with him. Time to show him your sword that glows in the dark.


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Originally Posted by Prisca
Personally, I think some things just cry out for disrespectful judgements ....

And I am sure they are working so well here! laugh


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