I will find out. I have not seen him on my wife's FB account. I will do the research.

The pilot did not leave his job he only put in for different flights. The only thing this pilot lost was the his old AP for a new AP.

You have not learnt much here. If you place more importance on WW keeping her job then ending the affair, having NC with the OM for life, and save your marriage and family, then your marriage is doomed.

Your WW has demonstrated that she can't be trusted to have any job where she is not home every night. Your WW has to leave this job otherwise eventually NC will be broken.

It does not matter that what policy this airline has regarding work place affairs. It is the BH's policy to expose work place affairs regardless.


Here is the work place exposure letter:




Developed by Brits Brat, board member and corporate attorney--

To Whom It May Concern:

This letter is to bring a matter to your attention that may be a violation of your Company's Code of Conduct and/or other policies, procedures and business ethics.

WS and WS are involved in an extramarital affair that is taking place, primarily, in the workplace. Aside from the potential sexual harassment claims this situation presents, it also involves the inappropriate use of company resources and assets. WS and WS are using company time and company resources to further their affair. If you check the call histories on their office and cell phones along with their workstation computers, you will find the two of them are spending an inordinate amount of what should be productive work time to further their sexual relationship.

If you have any questions, please call me at xxx-xxxx. Otherwise, I will anticipate a response from you once you have investigated these concerns and taken appropriate corrective action.

Regards,




Send this letter out today to the airline CEO, Director of HR, and the Board of Directors.




Why am I forced to do melodylanejr's job?

Why are you telling him what I already told him?? Did you read the thread?

I think it is a mistake to not expose today.

As melodylane said include their planed meet up this weekend. Exposure today may stop this from happening.

Also this is a must that a work place exposure must be done today, Tuesday, not tomorrow, Wednesday. For the airline may not allow this trip to happen. So send email including their plans to use work resources to conduct this affair this weekend. I would then suggest follow up registered letters to these same people to confirm that they received the emails. If you can not get guaranteed delivery today then send follow up telegrams to be delivered today.

You need to move fast. There is no way you should be able to sit back and let the OM have your WW for this weekend. You may not be able to prevent it. Though if you take this action to get the work place exposure done you will not be able to live in regret that you just sat and watched when you could of done more.
It is better to have WW's parents and sisters and other people that have influence on WW be exposed today. So they can exert that influence for WW to not go on this trip. WW just calls in sick.

You know, he is putting a plan in place so your posts are not necessary. They are disruptive and annoying. It is not a "mistake" to take a day to put together a good plan. There is no "must" be done today.

I agree.

This has been going on for four years. There is no emergency. It�s more important to have all your ducks in a row when you expose. The only reason to expose now is to ruin their weekend. You can do that by texting her how much you love her or have the kids text her about some wholesome family activity.

***EDIT***

This is a reminder to posters to please advise using Marriage Builders principles, or refrain from posting.

Hi to all,
I am still here and will have an update soon.
-CPK8

An update yet?

A shame he has left the building. For so much help here.

I am still here.
I own two businesses and they are currently in shambles because of the situation I am in and where all my focus has been. My efforts have not been in vain because some positive steps have been made. I have not left the group and intend on giving the full update very soon, just finding it hard to get the time. I appreciate the help and encouragement I am receiving here. I have a long road ahead of me and will need this forum and support it provides. Please be patient with me. Thank you

Your business can't thrive until this is dealt with so I would prioritize this. Prioritize exposure.

Take the time to ensure your businesses are solid. Don't underestimate how much people are willing to help you given the circumstance, though I'm not sure if you've exposed yet where they would know why you need help.

IF you haven't exposed, stop haggling and just do it. If you're like many of us were, you probably have a lot of inner dialogue and turmoil about doing this. Your wife is only thinking about herself right now, so please do not put too much effort into worrying about how she will respond to this and trying to somehow soften the blow for her. She's on another planet at the moment, you need to be concerned about having a broad target list and a clear (not nuanced) message to send to them.

So I agree with what the others said about exposure, but I wouldn't let your businesses get out of hand. You're going to need to have something to lean on that is successful in your life because the next few months are going to be bumpy regardless of what you decide to do here. My success in my career has greatly helped me with coping with my similar situation.