That is hilarious!!

Food for thought on the legal separation. 1. My attorney & Dr. Harley explained to me that from a financial standpoint it is better to just file for D instead of legal separation because if this would end up in D you are paying first for the separation then their are even more costs involved to make it a D. 2. Also Dr. Harley explained that going through the separation first will drag the whole process out a lot longer if you ever decide he will not follow the MB program. 3. If your H turns himself around and will NEVER see or talk to the OW again and practice EP and the rest of the MB plan the D can be delayed or dropped. Because he is a repeat offender of infidelity a significant amount of time (whatever the veteran posters recommend) should pass before a D filing is dropped. 4. I had a former employee that opted for the DIY D and it ended up costing her more because ultimately she had to secure an attorney anyway. Not to mention with the assets you have and a business I think it would be to great of a risk.

Since she doesn't have an assistant, if you have to, go to the attorneys office and camp out there until she sees you and have make sure you have the retainer in hand.

Ditto X 1,000,000

I also think being served with a D would smack some of the cheek out of his chops.

I will be back on this afternoon. I'm overwhelmed, and just plain exhausted, I need to take a little me time to breath, and then figure out the next first step.

I did call back the contractor, and ask him not to contact H......I don't want him here, and he said he won't call him till he hears from me again.

At this point, anything will knock the chops off of H......he thinks I'm to timid, and won't grow a set of balls! Ha....he's got a surprise coming then.

I am late to this party and honestly haven't read the entire thread carefully but just want to add a comment for anyone who might be reading or will read this later. And for you too, Ginger.

The reaction of the people you expose to is not really that indicative of whether your exposure was successful or not. It really isn't.

What is a much better measure of how effective your exposure is if in the infidels are angry and upset that you exposed. The rants and threats of calling police is a huge indication that you dealt a massive blow to the affair. When the wayturds don't care, that's when you know it wasn't really effective.

Likewise, the fact that they really really don't want you to contact OW mother tells me she would be a GREAT exposure target. I know you are working on it, but just want to add encouragement to do whatever you can to find her ASAP.

Can you also post OW on one of those cheaterville sites? I say go for it and add as much turmoil as possible to this affair as possible.

I agree with Melody. This garage thing isn't going to work.

You need to wrap up your exposures and get into Plan B very soon. This isn't going to work.

^^^^ yes.

Please read this again and take it to heart.

You're welcome! Glad to help!!

Since the garage is damaged, and it probably won't be fixed for a while, since he's not allowed on the property, the only thing covering the garage door itself is a tarp. It's been such a huge inconvenience! He could easily get in.

Thank you for the info. When I called the contractor, his concern was that the quote he put out was underpriced by the insurance claims assessor, by like $700. It was quoted with my H helping the construction owner, I don't know why he did it that way, but he did. So to get said construction guy to do it for less, I am going to run into problems.

But I am going to call my insurance company and discuss things with them to see what can be done.

I'm not letting him in here, I don't trust him. He took alot of stuff from the garage, decor for the OW.....and his apparently....home. He took our boat too. He had told me he wanted the mower, but he didn't take that. He has no moral compass right now to not take just whatever he feels like taking. He wants it, he's taking it.

He doesn't care about whatever else he has here, and honestly, it's nothing of value. It's the last thing on my list to deal with, there's other things I have to do quickly before then. He already has his clothes, and all the paperwork for the business, that's all he cares about. After that, I can pack his things up, and have the IM tell him where they will be.

I find it so odd, yesterday when he was here, he was harassing me about the business FB page. He wants it, he said he has to get posting on it, and get it going again, like it's my fault the business is going under because I haven't been active on that page. And now, I'm just laughing, after finding out from my friend that he hasn't even been there to care about the restaurant at all. Jerk! You are done controlling me!

No, he doesn't. That's what happens when you don't balance your bank account books! And yes, he will explode.

Great info, thank you!!

Thank you for this, it continues to confirm that I did the right thing. I was getting grief from his brother that I was doing it to destroy the business, they just don't understand that he has already done that himself, without my help.

I am working on things to try to get them together quickly, and no, I will not allow him to be here.

Your contractor friend does not understand how the insurance claims process works best to properly compensate the homeowner for the full and proper value of the insurable loss.

The claim can get reopened at any time and supplemented for proper payments.

The insurance carriers try to baffle everyone with a very comprehensive cost database estimating program, (Which Is Managed By Insurance Board Members), and say this is all they can pay.

The actual Policy, which is a Legal Contract, states that they will pay the necessary and reasonable costs to bring the insured back to whole again, prior to the insurable incident.

One way to Maximize your claim to the proper amount, is to hire a Public Adjuster, who will pretty much guarantee substantially increasing the claim amount payable, even after their 10% fee is calculated in.

I typically find that I can increaseea damage claim from a minimum of 20% to 200% just by correctly identifying and including missed line items from the written scope of loss.

Look into it.

I have some nationwide PA friends I network with that could steer you in the right direction.

BUT..... The bottom line main point, is that you do NOT want your and his POSOW stepping foot back on YOUR Marital Residence.

Btw, a legal separation is about as time consuming and costly as filing for an actual divorce.

You can always slow the divorce down, or put a halt to it, IF you are the one to file the initial suit for dissolution of marriage. The Respondent never has that option, but the Plaintiff does.

LTL

I have some nationwide PA friends I network with that could steer you in the right direction.

Yes, please. My H always handled things like these, and I would appreciate any help I can get.....gladly!!

BUT..... The bottom line main point, is that you do NOT want your and his POSOW stepping foot back on YOUR Marital Residence.

I feel the same way! I do not want him here!!


You can always slow the divorce down, or put a halt to it, IF you are the one to file the initial suit for dissolution of marriage. The Respondent never has that option, but the Plaintiff does.

I like this idea. As long as it can be delayed, or stopped at any point of my choosing, I am good with that. Would a D vs a LS be something that would deter him from returning if he ever did turn himself around?

So, at this point, my next step would be to speak with my lawyer to get the ball rolling with the D, restraining order against POSOW and H, and then contact him, letting him know he is not allowed on the property.

Then hopefully by then I will have the mothers name, and contact her.

Then send out the Plan B letters? I found her address too, it's 4 PO Boxes over from mine in the same PO! Disgusting!

Then I am fully in Plan B, and my IM will deal with everything, only letting me know what I need to know.

What State are you in?

LTL