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Hello guys, I am going through a rough patch in my life. I have a GF of over 5 years, and we had been going strong all these years and I had began to think of taking this relationship to the next level. I had always thought that she wanted the same. This 18th was her birthday and I had made arrangements to propose her on the special day. I had reserved a table at her favorite restaurant, bought her a ring *****edit****** and had made sure that it was going to be a memorable moment for us.
But to my shock my GF rejected my proposal. She says that she loves but she isn't sure about marriage. I don't understand what is making her back out. I feel so dejected and depressed.
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Im sorry but be thankful she said no now, rather than on wedding day.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Dr Harley wrote a book about finding "The One" to marry. It is titled Buyers Renters and Freeloaders. It can help you identify the right girls to pursue.
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It is actually a good thing that she rejected your proposal. A lot of people start living together, buy a house, have a child and then get married, because it's the next/logic step. Few people get married for the right reasons. This is a good moment to find out if your GF is the one to spend your future with, or not. The book "Buyers, renters and freeloaders" is what you should read. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6080_buyer.htmlIn this section you can find good information on how to prepare for marriage and how to choose the right one. www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5510_qa.html
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Marriage can be so difficult these days with the amount of social activity everyone is involved with. Constantly meeting new people, social media, traveling for work, etc.
She had probably thought about marriage but deep down knew she wasn't ready. Try and discuss with her if possible.
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Marriage can be so difficult these days with the amount of social activity everyone is involved with. Constantly meeting new people, social media, traveling for work, etc. ???? Marriage Builders principles are quite effective in dealing with all of these issues. They are not a problem for any couple who are actually using the concepts they learn here. Perhaps if you use this opportunity to educate yourself, you will not find marriage to be so difficult anymore.
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Wow, if social media is more important that person simply shouldn't try marriage.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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