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No that is what I'm saying. I've asked them all...they do not want to make it worse...they do not feel impartial. And understandably so. So not one of them would help you out and just facilitate communication in a neutral way? I understand that none FEEL impartial, that is an expectation. But we are not asking them to FEEL impartial, just to behave in that way.
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Well...they've all said no. All 5 of them.
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I was on phone last night and this morning asking.
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What did you say to them?
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I told them what they would have to do according to the link you or someone else posted.
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My parents and pastor are out...that's three people right there. The other one is my "aunt" she said no. My friend doesn't think she should get involved and my cousin it down right hateful and said she can't be impartial...and she can't...lol
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I told them what they would have to do according to the link you or someone else posted. The responses you posted above give me the feeling that they don't understand the job. It is really the easiest job in the world if done right. All they have to do is pass on pertinent communication to you. And there should be very little.
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I read em the post about IM job. They are more hateful than me. I haven't had feelings of hate...sadness...pity...hurt...devastation...but not hate. Anger comes up in me when I think of WH and the gangsta hood rat OW....and when dealing with my truck. But otherwise I'm doing OK.
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I read em the post about IM job. They are more hateful than me. I haven't had feelings of hate...sadness...pity...hurt...devastation...but not hate. Anger comes up in me when I think of WH and the gangsta hood rat OW....and when dealing with my truck. But otherwise I'm doing OK. How about asking your close friend to do it? Tell her understand she hates him but ask her if she could PRESENT a neutral front on your behalf?
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I can try...again. But it was a resounding no way Jose last night
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You want to do it Melody? Ha!
You have no skin in the game and seem to know exactly what to do...LOL!
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I can try...again. But it was a resounding no way Jose last night I would try to look for ways to make this work instead of reasons why it can't work. I am sure your friend wants to help, right? No one is asking her to rid herself of her bitterness. The only ask is that she ACT in a neutral way when dealing with him on your behalf. When I am an IM, I feel deep revulsion for the WS, but I can still maintain a neutral front for the sake of the BS.
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You want to do it Melody? Ha!
You have no skin in the game and seem to know exactly what to do...LOL! I wish I could, but my husband is definitely not enthusiatic about my being an IM! I do help other IMs and would be glad to help yours if you can find someone.
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My cousin who hates him just said she would....but only via text...her email is down
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Melody send me the IM link again please!
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I will send to my cousin in link form
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Well that went downhill fast. My WH blocked her number so she couldn't text him. Guess he doesn't like an IM. Sigh. Now what?
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Well that went downhill fast. My WH blocked her number so she couldn't text him. Guess he doesn't like an IM. Sigh. Now what? Wait a minute. Did you send him a Plan B letter? You are really jumping the gun here.
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BW, me - 44
WH - 47
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Tho that letter didn't have a plan for an IM
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