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But he still says I can't block his email. Just giggle extra hard when you block his email, then.
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I know! He is just babbling.
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Did you tell your IM not to pass on that stuff anymore like Prisca said?
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Yes. She didn't realize that was not appropriate. She was sending me his short...responses...which is a change from the long yucky foggy babble. But she knows now.
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If I were you, I'd make the truck payment myself for as long as it takes just to keep my personal credit record clear, and let the lawyer resolve it all in the end. If it costs more money, then chalk it up to the expense of extracting yourself from the situation and just forget it. Further contact is not worth it. Even checking with the bank each month is more contact than you really need right now. Have you ever moved and had to pay the lease or mortgage on a place you weren't even living in? Sometimes, it costs us to fulfill the financial commitments we made in good faith with no hint of what life was going to throw at us. Accept it as a loss and forget about it.
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MrE I cannot afford both car and truck pymts
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MrE I cannot afford both car and truck pymts So what is your plan when he stops paying?
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I will need to go to court and ask the judge to force pymt since he's asked for the truck as part of the divorce...or an injunction to sell it immediately. Since the divorce has started I cannot go repo the truck without a judge ordering it.
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I will need to go to court and ask the judge to force pymt since he's asked for the truck as part of the divorce...or an injunction to sell it immediately. Since the divorce has started I cannot go repo the truck without a judge ordering it. So has your lawyer started this yet?
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No because he told my IM he is going tmrw to do it. Court is scheduled for 3-3-16 so if I don't have to pay extra to go early I'm not going to push it. If he goes tmrw I won't need to worry til Feb
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No because he told my IM he is going tmrw to do it. Are you sending him messages??
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No. She just replied to that with ok. Why? Should I be?
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No. She just replied to that with ok. Why? Should I be? Ok, so he just volunteered that he had made the payment? I want to make sure you are not sending him messages about it through her.
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Yes he said he was going today sometime. When I don't know.
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He said he is gonna have the bank call me to give permission for him to verify the pymts are up to date. Stuuuuupid. But I don't plan on answering that call. Today is my birthday and I don't plan on letting him ruin it. Besides he doesn't need to see the pymts are on time....I've already told him they have been.
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He said he is gonna have the bank call me to give permission for him to verify the pymts are up to date. Stuuuuupid. But I don't plan on answering that call. Today is my birthday and I don't plan on letting him ruin it. Besides he doesn't need to see the pymts are on time....I've already told him they have been. Don't get hung up on this. He's trying to "suck you back in" to a dialog with him. IGNORE THIS!
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I was there. It's painful. It's hard.
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And the games begin. Ugh. WH emailed my IM saying he was at the bank but since he didn't have the acct number...nor a a way to call me...or email me...he couldn't pay truck today. So I called bank...they said its true he needs acct number to access MY acct...so I had to send acct number to IM to send to him and an hour later it's still not paid. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Makes me so mad.
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Now my IM is telling me that he wants me to meet him at the bank and to bring my divorce response he never got when he failed to do mail forwarding. Uhmmmm no. WH has the acct number. OMG....seriously you guys what in the world is this all about? Meet him to make a car pymt? Bring him a copy of my divorce response? No. Period.
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Now my IM is telling me that he wants me to meet him at the bank and to bring my divorce response he never got when he failed to do mail forwarding. Uhmmmm no. WH has the acct number. OMG....seriously you guys what in the world is this all about? Meet him to make a car pymt? Bring him a copy of my divorce response? No. Period. Have her offer to send him the divorce response in the mail.
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I offered to send it. He won't give me his addy. Besides he can trot his happy butt down to the court house and pay for a copy. He's the idiot that didn't do mail forwarding and thats how my response got returned.
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