I don't quote well...sorry...but that was sent 1-21-16
I think I finally understand. I'm sorry to have badgered you endlessly about this, but I wanted to see whether you had sent a Plan B letter that made it clear that you would only consider talking to him about reconciliation once certain conditions were met.
You altered the letter that MelodyLane prepared on January 21st, which is a shame because hers was worded much more clearly and strongly. Her letter made it much clearer that he would not get any messages through to you unless it was a message stating that he was wiling to meet your conditions. Nonetheless, you did put the conditions in there, so he does know about them.
I wish that you had not fired off those additional letters today, because they make it sound as if you are negotiating. You have also significantly altered the wording of the letter that you sent on the 21st, which is a bad idea. I don't like the wording of your letters sent today, but more than that, your H needs to be met with the exact same message each time he tries his crap on you - and it is your IM who should send that message, NOT YOU. He must not know that his thoughts are getting through to you. You have told him that your IM will block all messages and only let urgent ones through, and that is what he should experience - not YOU sending letters when he sends nonsense proposals to your IM. Your replying to him only shows him that when you say "your messages will not reach me", you are lying - because they DO reach you. They just did, because you just replied. He is never going to take it seriously that you mean what you say about having nothing to do with him unless he meets your conditions.
So, to clarify what needs to happen now:
Send no more communications to your WH, EVER.
Send your IM a copy of ML's 21st January Plan B letter.
Tell her that she is not to communicate ANYTHING from him except a desire to reconcile, on the terms stated in that letter. No thoughts, no suggestions, no queries about it, nothing; you don't want to hear it. She is only to tell you the day he gets on bended knee to her and begs her to tell you that he has fully met the terms of your Plan B letter.
If he sends messages that are not about reconciliation to her, she should say nothing about them to you.
If he sends messages like today's saying he will think about reconciling, but only under certain conditions...
...she is to re-send your Plan B letter with a message that
his message will not be passed on, and that the only message that will be passed on will be the one where he agrees to meet ALL the conditions in the Plan B letter.
She is not to tell you about any of this contact. She is not to tell you that she rejected it, and she is not to tell you that she re-sent the Plan B letter. She is not to tell you ANYTHING until the day he wants to get on bended knee and meet your conditions.
Is that clear? Can we get you into Plan B, having spent HOURS trying to get you there, since December?
