Yes to all of the above.
NC is NC.
Your IM doesn't need to contact him. If he needs something he can contact HER.
Continue to ignore him.

"Given the choices" - by whom? Is he in a position to give you choices? I don't think so.

"Now what" is that you continue Plan B. You do not need to "deal with" him. You maintain the status quo, whereby the only way he can get an urgent message to you is via your intermediary.

You were told over and over, weeks ago, to change your email and phone number.

No need to change my personal email. My email provider does block email. His cell is blocked and has been since last August. My house phone...he never calls...but I think today I will call to change it...it's only used for Internet anyway.

You're hoping that his moving has indeed made it all real, and that he is suddenly doubting that he can go through with it. You are hoping that he has fired your IM because he wants to talk to you directly, because he is undergoing some sort of epiphany and wants you back.

Just cut it out, always. That is not what is happening. This is your fantasy scenario, but it is not reality. If your H wanted to go back to you, he knows what conditions he has to meet, and how to contact the IM about that.

Posting these questions (about why he is doing this) was just another way of blogging about your H, and getting people to indulge you and talk to you about him. You need to stop it. Your husband is a drug addicted, alcoholic, violent adulterer and you need to get rid of him in your mind. Plan B is a state of mind.

What are you going to do when he contacts you from another source? You do know that is coming one day, don't you?

Why are you so stubborn at taking our advice?

Because I've had my email and cell number for over a decade...lol...it would be a monumental task to redo all bills...contacts...etc related to my cell and email. Ugh. No I didn't think he would try another way...he's not been smart about anything to this point...so that never crossed my mind that he'd try it another way.

Yet, people do it everyday.

He WILL, and your recovery will be set back to square one. Everything you accomplished will come crashing down.

Ugh...ok

I have had to open a new bank account because someone transferred 1ct every month. It was a lot of hassle to change everything, but I wasn't bothered by the controlling person anymore. That was his last means of control over me, I already had given up my motorbike to get rid of this person. Best loss ever.

If it is that important to you, you don't need to delete your account or old phone number, let them sleep for a year and use the new number and email for the next year. Send al relevant contacts your new contact info and DO NOT look at the old mail and phone for a year (after that, you will benefit from plan B so much and probably prefer to keep using your new mail and phone nr).

That is a great idea...thx...that I can do.

I know how dfficult it was for me to let go (different situation, love of my life forgot to tell me he was married, I found out). After the initial shock, it took me four years to fall out of love, even though we never saw eachother again. Memories kept crawling back because of triggers. Lots of silly things at my home were triggers, because he helped me move in here. Also, if I had gotten rid of my car sooner, I would have gotten over him sooner. I clung to that car. When my tools (1000$ worth) were stolen, I was most sad about a little stubborn bolt that was in my toolbox, he helped me loosen it to fix my ride.

I know how tempting it is to keep all those little memories and triggers, "my precious". I also know you need to get rid of them (for now anyway) as long he is in this state of mind. You need a watertight plan B. Don't be like me, time is precious.

So don't forget to hand over the old phone to your IM and let her change the password to your email, so you won't be tempted
She can check your email weekly to see if you forgot important contacts. After you send everyone relevant your new number, leave a voicemail on your old phone that from now on, this number will not be answered.

Sooooo...I called the phone company. My WH set up phone line so HE has to contact them to disconnect. Nor will they set acct up in my name for same residence. WH has blocked my IM phone. What can I do now?

This is the landline you only use it for internet, right? Keep using the intenet, unplug the phone, so it will not ring anytime soon.

Ok. My dad said let it go for the time being...it's not worth pushing right now in WH current state of mind.

It's a landline...with Internet. I use primarily for Internet. But my son uses phone as his cell is taken away at moment...lol...punishment. Anywho...grrrrrr

This is not your problem! It is not your job to find a way for your H to contact you! You have given him a route for urgent contact. He can either use it, or not contact you ever.

Let what go? (Which change are you talking about here?) And what does your H's state of mind have to do with anything?

I cannot change my home phone into MY name...or change the phone number because my WH is the primary and I'm an authorized user. So no changes can be done there.

My WH is in whatever state of mind due to his insistence that he have contact with me and me alone. So my my dad said let this issue go for the time being.

In plan B, you don't think of your husband. You need a firewall to protect yourself from him. Don't talk about him with your father.

It is your state of mind that is important.

There is no need for him to talk to you directly, if he wants to talk buisiness he can call the IM. If he wants to work on the marriage, he knows your terms and he can contact IM. There is NO NEED for him to talk to you directly.

Leave the phone contract be, unplug the phone. Your son will not die without it.

PLAN B! Do yourself a favour and read about plan B again, because your umbrella has holes in it and rain is pooring through.

Ok

Did you have a good weekend with activities? Do you have activities planned for next weekend? Take good care of yourself.