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6 years ago I had an affair. It was short lived, and my husband came to this site and followed all the rules for exposure etc! I ended the affair and we made a commitment to save our marriage. For the first 4 months following the affair he and I did EVERYTHING by the book, we were even on Dr. Harley's show. That faded very quickly, and he became abusive, in December of 2013 I left, filed for divorce and had no contact with him not he with our children for almost a year. Once our divorce was final, I reconnected with my affair partner and we began dating, we've been dating for almost a year now.
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6 years ago I had an affair. It was short lived, and my husband came to this site and followed all the rules for exposure etc! I ended the affair and we made a commitment to save our marriage. For the first 4 months following the affair he and I did EVERYTHING by the book, we were even on Dr. Harley's show. That faded very quickly, and he became abusive, in December of 2013 I left, filed for divorce and had no contact with him not he with our children for almost a year. Once our divorce was final, I reconnected with my affair partner and we began dating, we've been dating for almost a year now. Do you have a question for this forum? Please remember that you are posting to an anti-affair forum, where the posters have had their marriages destroyed by affairs. Some of us have managed to rebuild. Why are you here?
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If you are seeking approval for dating your affair partner, you will not find it here.
Find someone new.
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I'm not seeking approval ~ not do I need it. I guess the rest of my post cut off - my question was my ex is now wanting to try again - is it something worth doing?
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I'm not seeking approval ~ not do I need it. I guess the rest of my post cut off - my question was my ex is now wanting to try again - is it something worth doing? Don't you know whether it is worth doing? Don't you know how you feel about him?
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You're involved with someone else. How do you see your future with him? Why are you consider going back to your ex? Do you have a strong sense that this would be the right thing to do, or do you still love your ex?
Whatever your feelings about your ex, are you willing to cut off all contact with you affair partner for good, and build a new marriage?
If you are willing to create a romantic, faithful marriage, then yes, that is something worth doing. if you will take all the extraordinary precautions that Dr Harley recommends, then you can have a fulfilling marriage. If you are not willing to do those things, then why are you thinking of reconciling?
What about your ex? What kind of abuse was he subjecting you to? What evidence can he give you that he will never again be abusive?
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What was your husband's posting name?
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Can you go NC with the OM?
Does your BH know that you have been dating (and I assume sex with) the OM?
Many a WS and BS after an affair and divorce have remarried each other.
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How old are your children?
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What date were you on the radio show?
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He is now my ex husband - he has not had nor tried to have any contact with myself or our children in almost 2 years. I guess I answered my own question I that I would only go back to my ex husband for the monetary gain. I imagine he does know - why else would he be I. Contact all of a sudden
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Wow, he has not been in contact with his own children? Do you know why?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Would you mind answering our questions?
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I reconnected with my affair partner and we began dating, we've been dating for almost a year now. Nice. So you have returned to your affair and wayward ways. I feel very sorry for your children. What a mess.
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I'm not seeking approval ~ not do I need it. Have some decency and some class, please. Go flaunt your affair on an affair website. Not an marriage building forum. Good grief.
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It is a violation of our Terms of Service to have multiple accounts. Please email the moderators if you require further explanation.
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The moderators are looking at evidence that this poster is actually mrs_cen.
Since the moderators went to a lot of trouble to help mrs_cen in the past, and took a lot of flack for it, we certainly have no intention of permitting mrs_cen to deceive all of our regular posters by creating a new account and changing her story slightly to disguise her identity.
Juliet/mrs_cen, you may not need approval emotionally, but if you want to post on the Marriage Builders forum, you do need approval to do so from the Marriage Builders forum moderators. To get that, you will need to abide by our rules, which prohibit posting from multiple accounts in order to deceive our posters by hiding your identity.
If you have any questions, email me or any of the other moderators. We would certainly like to talk to you about this.
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