Zach, I really think you need to take your questions to your own thread.

I have told him I'm going home, I've drafted a letter to our landlord stating that our last day will be June 30/15 (H doesn't want to stay in the house)
He doesn't seem at all concerned that I'm going, perhaps he doesn't think I'm going.
I have not followed up with Dr. Harley, I believe he will suggest (as he did in our radio show) that I DO go home.

I think that's the best move for you. If I were you, I'd go ahead and update Dr. Harley on what's going on.

When will you be leaving?

I will email Dr. Harley.
I'm staying until June 28, our daughters last day of school is the 26th of June so after school's out, her and I will head home.

I think you're doing the best thing. Let us know what Dr. Harley says.

Your H has had ample time to get onboard.

Hello All!
Just an update ~ I'm still "here" and reading all the posts etc.
Our daughter and I left NL in June to come home, my H was no longer willing to follow any of the steps to continue with our recovery. He has attempted no contact with me and none with our daughter. I filed for divorce and have to wait until June 2016 for it to be final.
I have my own place with both kids, a good job and my family. I miss him.

Hello!! So nice to hear from you.

How many times has he tried to contact you? Are you in Plan B? Do you have an IM?

I am very glad to hear this, mrs_cen. You gave all that you could, and your husband just would not get on board. This is the best thing for you and your kids!

Good for you, Mrs cen. It's a shame, but you looked hard facts in the face and refused to compromise on what marriage is. At the very least it's 15 hours of the dozens in the week!

He wanted you to drag him uphill by the heels and you would have got nothing out of being played like that.

Being on your own is easier and more fun than playing that game.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

mrscen, is this you??
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2878802&page=1

Wow.

I am beyond disappointed, mrs_cen. I went to bat for you. I lost friendships over you. I had such high hopes for you.

But you've returned to your wayward ways? And then tried to deceive us? Why???

Are you really THAT desperate for a man that you have to choose between an abusive husband who didn't value you over his money, and a scumbag OM who would use a married woman? Seriously? You can't find any better options?

This guy?

The one who threatened you, in his attempt to break up your marriage and deprive your daughter of her father?

The one who thought he could build a loving life together with someone he had to threaten into staying with him?

The one you did not love?

Seriously?

What a catch - both of you.

Hello All,
That is NOT me.
BH and I moved to NL IN September 2013, I stayed in NL until June 2015 and then my daughter and I moved home. I filed for divorce in August 2015 but our divorce will not be final until June 2017 - as you are required to have residence I. The province in which you file for one year. BH has not been in contact with me for about 6 months, but is regularly in contact with our daughter (he calls my mom's after school but before I come to get her)
I have NOT been in contact with the OM since things ended, nor do I have any desire to be.
I must say I'm offended and hurt that you all would think that?!?!?!
I still come and read all the posts here, and I've continued to try and follow Dr. Harley's principles in my own life - the last thing I would do is return to a relationship that destroyed my marriage as well as introduce my children to it!
Thanks for doubting me though!

Could someone be using your old IP address?

Someone with basically the same story?

Interesting odds.

Also...same writing style. Juliet gingerbee and mrscen both start "paragraph" by hitting return but not separating with a space (example provided below). Not many people write that way.

Also I can't think of a couple who both posted here in the last few years, were on the radio show, and then separated due to the BH's AOs and not being on board with recovery.

There's not one doubt in my mind you are both the same person.

If it wasn't you mrscen, you wouldn't be offended. That's classic gaslighting 101.

Why not just come clean? Why the games?

every one is entitled to their opinion. I simply said my piece and that's that, what the forum and its members chose to do with it, isn't up to me. I'm not embarrassed by how life has turned out for me. I had an affair, I worked hard to fix it, my husband didn't want to, I moved home and am moving on.