you need an attorney.

These legal troubles will follow you, background checks for jobs, etc. Get ahead of them now!
This is your future and the futures of your children, PROTECT IT.

Did the affair happen in NC? If so, hire a lawyer and sue the POSOM for alienation of affection.

I wish it did, but no it happened in AL.

Your Honor, Mr Prosecutor,
This is the first time I have laid eyes on my precious wife since September 21st, 2015. Thats 212 days 5084 hrs, approximately. This is an absolute lifetime if not 3. But this all didn't start in September. There has never been any history of abuse, we never fought, and family and friends would swear to you that we had the perfect marriage. But the signs where there, and like WS will tell you, I didn't listen. The fact is, I neglected her. I took her for granted. I never valued her opinion over my own. We lost a child in 2011 and my grieving to stay as busy as humanly possible, was completely different from her own. I resented her for it. I was far from the greatest husband I thought I was and those around us thought. I finally learned this in January of 2015. She asked me for a divorce, but I wouldn't give it to her. I decided then that I would change. I opened books, went on marriage building forums, started seeing councilors, sought forgiveness and tried to make amends, but it was already too late. Just when our marriage started to become the very best it has ever been in, May of that year, tragedy struck her family and we took on the responsibility of care taking for a whole other family. This tripled our stresses and financial burdens. Utilities were being cut off and future plans to rebuild our life were put on hold. There is no question in my mind why this wouldn't drive her into another man's arms, especially it being September. But what brought this case to light was more sinister than her betrayal. When I found her in his bed, the look on her face and the expression in her eyes told me that she had gotten her revenge. So I made the same mistake I have made time and time again. If she is going to hurt me, than I must do the same to her. I stood there and told her that she had lost everything. That she no longer had a choice. When I got home, I called her and did it again. I further proved that when I took the kids to NC. These were actions taken by a broken man. It was never my intent to take her kids from her. With no job, no family, and very few friends here in WS's hometown, I had to do what was best for my children and I. I knew that would destroy her, but I felt I had no choice. I never touched her. But I think we can agree that what I did was far worse.

Since that day, I have been in absolute turmoil. I have been treated like a criminal, shunned from family and friends, relocated, homeless, penniless, and have all but lost the will to live. I told myself for 4 months that Karma would seek out its revenge and that I would find the justice I craved so dearly. What I didn't realize until late, was that Karma is doing exactly that, but opposite of my own disillusion. Everything that I have done to her in our 13 years of marriage is coming back on to me. She was and is a great woman, the perfect spouse, mother, and partner I could ever want. Her patience and love for me got us through more heartaches and troublesome times than any other woman could have. She is loved by everyone around her. But what she did to me and this court was out of pure desperation. Her boy friend's Niece coerced and helped her developed a plan to not only get her kids back, but also provide a foundation for her to get a free lawyer for the pending divorce, and it worked. I do not agree with nor condone the actions and decisions that were made. But I understand and agree with why they were made. I love this woman with all my heart and soul. I know we can come back from this. Ultimately though, the choice is hers. But I will not be involved in any more strife or actions against her. I forgive her for all that has happened and I pray that one day she will forgive me. With this being said, I petition this court to drop all charges and pursue no other legal action. Thank you.

Let your lawyer do the talking for you.

If you say that crap in court, on record, she has recorded documentation of you basically admitting taking your children away from her.

Plus, you may wind up in jail.

Quit being a martyr by throwing yourself on the sword verbally and Shut Up.

LTL

She is ready to start the program. Where do we start?

When was the last time you listened to the radio show that you were on?

Have you read the book?

She is in withdrawal from the affair, so a poor mood is to be expected. Many people start ADs to help them through this time. You should focus on making LoveBank deposits and avoiding lovebusters, while implementing the EPs you have mentioned.

Can the two of you get some time away together? that is how Jon and Sue jump started their recovery.

I apologize SugarCane. I was on my phone and texting is not my passion.

It has been a while. I lost all hope for a good while and shut down completely. I stopped the program to be very honest. I was in a holding pattern. I have listened to today's.

Which one? I have read Love Busters and His need, Her needs. I do not have Surviving an Affair yet. I will pick this up tomorrow. I have read just about every article published on this website though. Maybe even twice. I know it's no substitute.

I want to get the workbook too.

My bride is very upset tonight. She is heartbroken over this guy and it is tearing me apart too. I try and pray for happiness and to fix the wounds with her. Thanking God for the miracle He has given us.