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Re: Please Help Me Save My Marriage Zanadoo #2890914 12/07/16 10:22 AM
Joined: Sep 2016 Posts: 19 Z Zanadoo OP Junior Member
OP Zanadoo Junior Member Z Joined: Sep 2016 Posts: 19	I am sorry that I have taken your time.

Re: Please Help Me Save My Marriage Zanadoo #2890917 12/07/16 11:20 AM
Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 789 Likes: 4 G goody2shoes Member
goody2shoes Member G Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 789 Likes: 4	Originally Posted by Zanadoo Ok he having an affair what do I do??? Find out who the other woman is and get proof.

Re: Please Help Me Save My Marriage SugarCane #2890918 12/07/16 11:21 AM
Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 789 Likes: 4 G goody2shoes Member
goody2shoes Member G Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 789 Likes: 4	Originally Posted by SugarCane Originally Posted by Zanadoo I really don't know that he isn't having an affair but I don't think he is. He has filed for divorce as of the 29th. He is not willing to work on anything pertaining to our relationship. I don't want to end my marriage so what is it that I should do? You need to find out the name of the woman he is having the affair with, and expose them both at their workplace, if that's where he met her, and also expose him to your close family and friends, and her husband if she has one. If he won't end the affair immediately on exposure, and withdraw the divorce petition, you need to let him finish his affair with her. Once you have exposed, have nothing to do with him until and unless he begs you to take him back. He is having an affair, whether you believe it or not. You cannot get your marriage back until the affair ends, and you might be able to speed up the ending by exposing the fact that it is taking place. You cannot expose until you find out who is involved, so start finding that out. This.

Re: Please Help Me Save My Marriage Zanadoo #2890928 12/07/16 01:40 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Originally Posted by Zanadoo Ok he having an affair what do I do??? Do what we told you to do and GET THE EVIDENCE. Otherwise you are wasting our time and yours. I have a full time career, a marriage like most of the other posters and we don't have time to give the same advice over and over. We need you to get the evidence in order to move forward. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Please Help Me Save My Marriage MelodyLane #2890965 12/07/16 05:17 PM
Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,820 canada J jessitaylor Member
jessitaylor Member J Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,820 canada	zanadoo, I am sorry about what has happened to your marriage, I am sorry he is having an affair.......If you want to recover you have to blow up the affair and that is done by shining a huge bright light on his affair. Right now he is seeing her without any consquence, letting everyone that is important to him know and that you are willing to work on the marriage if he ends his affair, ask for their help... The longer you wait the more entrenched in the affair he becomes and the less likely you can save it...... Expose to everyone on both sides, friends at his work if they work together HR department .....all at the same time.... Then come back and we can help you..... BW 56 WH 57 Married 25 years, live together for 2, dated 2 years before that..... DS 23, DS 25 D-Day Nov 23/09 NC Mar 1/10 Working on Recovery Grateful for finding Marriage Builders

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