WW just called. Wanted me to stop telling people, delete whatever evidence I had. Said I was hurting people. I said her actions are hurting people. She hung up.

Oh wow! that is some serious blameshifting!

Do you think the OM's SO has contacted your wife yet? Do you think she will?

She hasn't, but she would if I asked her too.

Mother of OM and says "Look what you are doing to your kids". I said, "I did this?" She hung up.

No wonder her loser son is this way! If that were my son, I would be horseswhipping him and calling people to apologize. I wouldn't be blaming the victim.

I am happy to hear you are not allowing this blameshifting.

Of course WW wants you to stop telling people and delete the evidence. She is embarrassed about HER OWN disgusting behavior and their consequences. That has nothing to do with you.

As far as OM is concerned, it sounds like he is also a serial cheater and his SO should leave him in the dust. If I were you I would not care at all about what his family says to you.

Ultimately, you are not seeking to recover your marriage here. You did the right thing and brought this behavior into the light of day. It doesn't really matter what WW or anyone else who enable her think about what you did.

I'm sorry Melody - I meant Mother of WW not Mother of OM.

I contacted SO and gave her my wife's phone number.

Good answer!

Good move! Do you think she will call her?

Yes - I really think she will. She said she was going to tell my WW how she felt. My wife gets off work at 3:15 CT, so I will let you know what happens.

My MIL is also a problem. I need to ignore her. Her and WW are mostly worried about kids not staying with WW, looking out for themselves rather than addressing the real problem. My WW told me to enforce with the kids our custody agreement. MIL threatens me about not talking to them.

An outpouring of support is coming into OM's SO on Facebook. I did exposure through PMs so I am getting a lot of support as well. Many people shocked, others not shocked because they heard many of the other rumors which this confirmed. The common response is "I do not understand why she does this".

WW took her Facebook down last night. It is back up today, but she blocked me.

I am so curious to take a look at SO's Facebook page and responses she is getting. Any ideas of how you can point me to it? Maybe be last name and city? I ask because I will be walking the same walk as you in my case. I am also tempted to post my WW's affair or something like what SO has done on my page when my time comes.

I think it is super effective and will really hit my WW and OM well to the bone. Her friends and relatives will see it too when they go to my page. It can even stay for weeks or months. It can be shared. She will never have an affair again sealing one of the reasons for exposing affairs - so the WW/WH do not repeat affairs. I am liking this. It looks it is most powerful avenue of exposure.

Guess what? You can't FORCE them to see her. A judge is not going to force teenagers to see their parents and it is very common that teenagers want nothing t do with a wayward parent. So let her know you will leave it up to the kids to decide if they want to see her or not.

And your MIL can shove it. You are not obliged to ever lie to your own kids to cover up the crimes of their mother. Your MIL does not have their best interest at heart, sadly.

You need to stop obsessing about this. Follow the advice you have been given by Dr. Harley himself.

Everytime you feel the urge to do something stupid, take a walk. If nothing else, your health will benefit.

Thank you.

Venom is coming out from WW about snooping methods and who I exposed to. I point all questions back to her affair.

SO did not get to talk to WW but SO sent her this text with no response.

"WW this is SO. I want to start by asking you to stop pursuing OM. I know that he started all of this but as a wife and a mother you should have stopped before it started knowing it was wrong. OM and I have had some problems but cheating was not the answer. It defines who you truly are and it isnt a proud reputation. OM and I have been together almost 7 years and now that could be destroyed because of both your actions. This did not only hurt me but has affected my son on so many levels. He had already lost his dad years ago and OM had filled that void. So again I'm asking for you to stop this and let me fix my family. You should already know how you have hurt your husband and your boys from your previous affairs. Please don't ruin mine."

Bravo to the OM's SO! That was really nice of her.

Here's what I sent to OM.


"OM, this is DS. I don�t really know you, but I have little respect for you going after my wife, WW. Maybe you would be happier in your relationship at home if you focused on your own family instead of mine. As a father yourself, you should know what you are doing to my boys, XXXX and XXXXX. They are good kids and you & WW have destroyed them. They will NEVER accept you, and you are doomed if you continue to pursue WW. SO and your family are hurting and they don�t deserve what you�ve done to them. I have made sure the whole town of XXXXX knows the person you really are. Stay away from my family and never talk to WW again, and quit trying to ruin other peoples lives."


Hopefully this was alright. He was once a BS and his kids were affected by his wife's infidelity. So I used that in my message.

Well, after exposure, I am starting to get information about the other affairs.

That was a good message you sent to OM? Did he respond?

What and how have you found out about her other affairs?

OM has not responded to my text. I did not expect him to.

Friends are now coming to me sharing what they know. Seems like a lot of people do not want to get involved when they know about infidelity, and the BS does not. Now that an affair has been exposed, they come to you and discuss it.